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The new girlfriend
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Has anyone else ever had problems with an ex's new girlfriend, when you've been the one who finished with the ex?
I finished with this guy who I had been kind of seeing about a month ago, I was never really into him ,was on the rebound and realised it was totally unfair so I did the best thing and got out...of course he was pretty upset, and now quite soon after he is with another girl. I'm not sure whether he's doing it to try and make me jealous or whether that's what she thinks he is doing and so is insecure, but anyway she's giving me hell.
Unfortunately we all work together, and she's also at my college..and every time I see her she gives me evils, her friends say stuff, they laugh, etc etc, just anything to get at me. Today she was overheard telling a friend that I was "the one with the blonde hair", so obviously pointing me out for someone else to have a go at me. She also sent me a text via his phone saying "hi, just thought you'd like to know your ex is really good in bed", and it was definitely from her not him. It's all really immature but it's driving me up the wall, and actually really upsetting me now.
I'm not sure how to get her to stop, because I don't really know her that well and I'm useless at confronting people, I'll just burst into tears. I can't stand it any longer though!!! I have nothing against her, there is no danger that I am going to steal him back of her, I think she actually knows this, yet she is still making my life hell...:(
Any ideas what I should do? Sorry this is a bit of a long post!
I finished with this guy who I had been kind of seeing about a month ago, I was never really into him ,was on the rebound and realised it was totally unfair so I did the best thing and got out...of course he was pretty upset, and now quite soon after he is with another girl. I'm not sure whether he's doing it to try and make me jealous or whether that's what she thinks he is doing and so is insecure, but anyway she's giving me hell.
Unfortunately we all work together, and she's also at my college..and every time I see her she gives me evils, her friends say stuff, they laugh, etc etc, just anything to get at me. Today she was overheard telling a friend that I was "the one with the blonde hair", so obviously pointing me out for someone else to have a go at me. She also sent me a text via his phone saying "hi, just thought you'd like to know your ex is really good in bed", and it was definitely from her not him. It's all really immature but it's driving me up the wall, and actually really upsetting me now.
I'm not sure how to get her to stop, because I don't really know her that well and I'm useless at confronting people, I'll just burst into tears. I can't stand it any longer though!!! I have nothing against her, there is no danger that I am going to steal him back of her, I think she actually knows this, yet she is still making my life hell...:(
Any ideas what I should do? Sorry this is a bit of a long post!
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Did you delete the text message? Are you still friends with your ex?
If you are still on good terms with him can you go and talk to him about her, and say she is upsetting you. Hopefully he will be sympathetic and tell his new girlfriend to pack it in. Other than that there's not much advice I can give, sorry. (Other than the walk up to her, give her a slap, and walk away... but that's not really the sensible option)
hehe no i don't think slapping her would go down too well....
I was on speaking terms with him until this...and I tried to talk to him and he said "i'm not telling her what to do"....oh and another annoying thing, i was talking to him on msn about it and it turned out later that she had been behind him for the whole conversation and he hadn't bothered to tell me...so she knows that it's annoying me and is therefore deliberately doing it more.
Grrrr!
If she doesn't take any of that then give her a good slap and storm off
Try talking to her, and telling her that you have nothing against her, that she needn't worry about having competition with him and you're quite happy for her to pick up your cast-offs (nice one rainbow brite!). Just let her know that it's not on to be so bitchy and she shouldn't behave in such an immature way. Maybe if you have a conversation with her, some of the tension and hostility will relax a little.
Um that's a bit weirdly written but hope it helps!!
I'm gonna see how it goes at work next weekend and if it's still a nightmare then I'm definitely going to attempt to have a word with her.