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New boyf/girlf...
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Ok hypothetical question......
If you're getting into a new relationship how much do you want to know first about the person and what kind of things are important to know before hand? Is it important that you know certain things about them or are you not bothered in not knowing much about your new boyf/girlf at first?
If you're getting into a new relationship how much do you want to know first about the person and what kind of things are important to know before hand? Is it important that you know certain things about them or are you not bothered in not knowing much about your new boyf/girlf at first?
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The Silly String
:yes: I agree, I was good friends with my boyf for a few months before we started going out.
What about things like their previous relationships? If they'd been a mate for a while you'd probably know the deal with their exes and that, but would that kinda thing bother you?
I mean, unless you're going to run through a huge questionaire and checklist, then it'll take time.
The things I usually want to know about are, religious views (in brief - are they religious), food (mainly are they vegetarian - as I'm not), drinking habits, and what they do in their spare time. Most of those can be established quickly and easily. Everything else takes time to learn about someone else.
So, why the hypothetical questions Faith? All not well? Met someone else?
Mr_Wobble
I like honestly and loyality in a person, anything else can be worked around or compromised on.
As long as they're dirty..;) (And crazy drug addicts, haha)
Phil
True true - I just need to kickstart mine though! :yes: :yes:
Yea it's nice to be friends for a while first! I was with my current bfriend as when we met he had just joined the army, so he didn't get to come home so all we could do was talk every night for 3months! Eventually we found out everything about each other!! It was nice otherwise it's nice to know hobbies, intrests, about parents, families etc etc!
My friend & her bfriend have been together 6months n' neither of them no anything about each other! It's awful. Because they see each other in school, they never talk on the phone etc so it's only like a "fuck buddies" relationship in some ways!!
And what's her number?
I agree wholeheartedly that, for a serious, long-term relationship, it is very important to be friends first and thus understand the other person to a greater extent.