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Hey Peeps hope everyone is ok & behaving!! Hehehe!
I recently (at the wkend) had sex for the first time with my boyfriend. We have known each other for about 6months and have really strong feelings for each other. It was my 1st time, but he has slept wih 6 girls before me. Problem is it was awful, it didn't hurt but I couldn't wait for it to be over. I felt like shit because I don't think he enjoyed it.
Anyway we spoke about it & he said he also felt shit because he thought I wasn't enjoying it. Thats because it was awful!! Is this common if it's your 1st few times?!
How can I improve?!
I recently (at the wkend) had sex for the first time with my boyfriend. We have known each other for about 6months and have really strong feelings for each other. It was my 1st time, but he has slept wih 6 girls before me. Problem is it was awful, it didn't hurt but I couldn't wait for it to be over. I felt like shit because I don't think he enjoyed it.
Anyway we spoke about it & he said he also felt shit because he thought I wasn't enjoying it. Thats because it was awful!! Is this common if it's your 1st few times?!
How can I improve?!
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Yeah, I wouldn't worry about it.
Just relax. If he's more experienced then you, let him take the lead - he's not going to expect you to be the seductress for your first few times - let him concentrate on pleasuring you & you'll learn a trick or two
Most people lose their virginity in the missionary position.
The problem with this is that the girl can not often do a lot so to speak- its harder to build up a rhytm unlike say doggy. And if it was your first maybe you didnt kind of have a rhytm and he thought you wereent enjoying it and so he didn't. That make sense?
So my prescription is go have lots more sex! :eek:
Which willl hurt if you've only had sex once before! I'd give it a little while before you do that! (but definitely get round to it )
Get clued up on
contraception and STIs before you get passionate.
Improve your technique
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Susie
Try playing with yourself more, by doing that, you get to know what feels good for you. Then all you need to do is tell/show your bf where you like to be touched
He’ll be happier, and then you can take a more active & lively role in sex, once you two have gained a rhythm. You’ll be moving like a bitch on heat!
In a nutshell, practice makes perfect and you will only get better the more you do it. I don't think you need much more of an incentive than that
Ok, no first times very rarely are good. YOu don't know properly what to expect and ti doesn't very often live up to how you had expected.
Everyone says sex is natural, but it isn't completely, it's something you learn with practice, when you find out what positions you prefer as well as learning your partner, learning what feels good for both of you, and getting a rhythm going that suits you both.
Don't worry about it, keep trying and it will come better in time. Don't let it put you off though chuck.
Mr_Wobble
Have fun!