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Went Back to Counselling
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Well i went back to counselling!
Thought it best that i should go back and talk to my counseller about the 'off the cuff' comment that she said to me at the end of our last session.
I said to her that what she had said really pissed me off, made me feel like the last seven sessions where pointless, and made me seriously consider not going back to counselling.
Being a counseller her reply was WHY?.
Now this did piss me off, coz i didnt want to be physco analized i wanted an explanation after stewing over this for a week and being arsed to go back.
So i said to her 'if you were in my position that your partner had just died you have just gone through 4 week's of absolute hell packing the flat and putting my whole world into storage you were just about to hand the keys back to the flat and your counseller say's to you at the end of your session 'i dont think you dealing with thing's emotionally' dont you think you think you would be left feeling robbed of one of the little thing's that you thought you were doing good for yourself.
She then replyed with 'well this has obviously upset you quite a bit'
At this point i was really ready to fly off the handle i didnt know whether to throttle her or burst out crying.
So i tryed calming myself down and explained to her that in my eyes having moved out of the flat was a really 'emotional' thing and explained that having now moved out that i though i was 'dealing' with it. Wrong again acording to her she still see this as Practical.
Am i going nuts....i know that ive had quite a few reply's already to my previous thread but what do you think??
Coz in my eye's moving out of the flat was hard as hell mentally physically and EMOTIONALLY. If i thought that i'd moved out of our flat and had been cold enough to not feel any sadness and pain and lonelyness then i doubt that i'd even be posting this coz in theory that would just mean i didnt give a shit about him at all.
So do you think im just being practical??
Thought it best that i should go back and talk to my counseller about the 'off the cuff' comment that she said to me at the end of our last session.
I said to her that what she had said really pissed me off, made me feel like the last seven sessions where pointless, and made me seriously consider not going back to counselling.
Being a counseller her reply was WHY?.
Now this did piss me off, coz i didnt want to be physco analized i wanted an explanation after stewing over this for a week and being arsed to go back.
So i said to her 'if you were in my position that your partner had just died you have just gone through 4 week's of absolute hell packing the flat and putting my whole world into storage you were just about to hand the keys back to the flat and your counseller say's to you at the end of your session 'i dont think you dealing with thing's emotionally' dont you think you think you would be left feeling robbed of one of the little thing's that you thought you were doing good for yourself.
She then replyed with 'well this has obviously upset you quite a bit'
At this point i was really ready to fly off the handle i didnt know whether to throttle her or burst out crying.
So i tryed calming myself down and explained to her that in my eyes having moved out of the flat was a really 'emotional' thing and explained that having now moved out that i though i was 'dealing' with it. Wrong again acording to her she still see this as Practical.
Am i going nuts....i know that ive had quite a few reply's already to my previous thread but what do you think??
Coz in my eye's moving out of the flat was hard as hell mentally physically and EMOTIONALLY. If i thought that i'd moved out of our flat and had been cold enough to not feel any sadness and pain and lonelyness then i doubt that i'd even be posting this coz in theory that would just mean i didnt give a shit about him at all.
So do you think im just being practical??
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You may think that, but they have their reasons. They want you to analyze what you are feeling and why you feel it, becuase it's not all on a single level.
Bereavement is a big issue, for sure, but the effects will go deeper than you realise and will affect you in many ways that you won't initially realise.
Stick with it, it becomes clearer eventually, but if you block what they are trying to do you won't achieve anything...
Instead of getting angry with her, why not just answer the questions honestly...?