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If there is someone wants to be your lover but you dont want to, what would you do? I've met a girl who is my work colleague's mate. We chatted a lot but I thought we were just friends. Then there was rumour in the office about her fancy me. I think she is a nice girl but just not my type of girlfriend. Last nite she invited me to her house for a meal later this week. If i go then it would be difficult for me (you know what I mean). Is there anyone in this sort of situation and how to kindly let her know about that and at the same time not to hurt her feeling!
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Sorry i aint bin much help have i
S.G :cool:
I'm in a similar situation and haven't succeeded in avoiding some involvement. But my situation is a bit more complicated than yours...
He knows I fancy someone else (who btw has a girlfriend) but keeps trying to get a go at me. To top it all we are really good friends and he's very sweet and everything and tries not to pressure me. Because of that we are a bit more than friends but not bf/gf and I don't know how to tell him he's not my type without hurting his feelings.
My suggestion to you is emphasising her role as "just a friend" and hope she'll get the hint.
In my case that hasn't helped a lot because he still wants to be with me and well... Let's just say I'm not made of iron.
But any way if anyone has any more suggestions I would also want to hear them.
Good luck Nice Kick!
Hit the nail on the head, just tell her now, it'll get harder.