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Thank you dude @so_very_tired , means so much, same for you, I feel like you've improved so much too since a few months ago, even though Im sure you were always a good person just a few slip ups which I have had myself and everyone does.
This woman is here with a Nissan Juke lol
I can't exactly blame you for not wanting to do a Supported Internship @Redemption because I feel like it's made for people who need support and a lot of what you're being taught is very trivial for most people. Also some of the lessons may feel like a waste of your time. Beneficial for some, but not for others. I also feel like I'm doing meaningless tasks at Asda so I bet your work is better because you will be do something more than me as you have paid employment and your work will want to make it worth there while. But I could be wrong about that as I have no idea what your work is like.
I am still annoyed of those events mainly because it wasn't a one off incident that everyone got mad at. I am also quite annoyed I made a massive hoopla about me leaving because it caused a bunch of people to get concerned and I also said my mental health plummeted which only made the situation worse. Even though all of that is behind us I do sometimes slip up. They're better than my previous slip ups as it wasn't me being an asshole to the community, they're more just questionable things I say during chats. It's not as bad as my previous slip ups, but it is something I'd rather not let happen too often as I'd rather not annoy the staff.
@so_very_tired yh Im sorry its not too good, this is how college felt for me and courses I was on about in general chat like I did mountains on a course, lighting stuff up and shit like that and its not relevant to work. College was just teachers, nagging. It is better that it's working, like we said when I started its not glamorous, grotty and grim at time, I do have times like where did I go wrong, having it a bit now but Ill get forward, we both will and for now its money.
Understandable to be annoyed, I really understand how it feels everyone going at you, experiencing myself like an argument or everyone upset or mad etc at you, no one on your side. I've experienced it myself a lot on life still occasionally to this day like no one wants to side "stupid broken Pal", thats what matters if you're getting better like you can ask other members who have been here longer when I first started off here I wasn't the best. Tbh I've never seen you say anything really that bad, yh maybe questionable but when we don't know peoples circumstances and stuff it can be easy to say things then it might be hurtful even if you had no intentions. You're a valued member here still, I’m sure everyone here would back up my point on that.
Sorry for the late reply @Sian321 , I forgot. I guess rejection is frightening. I just there in front of people and can't bring myself to say hi or anything unless they say hi first but I just make it blunt but I'm too scared like what if they don't want to make a long convo etc. I'd love to just get chatting with someone, I just take time to warm up to someone like even just starting with awkward small talk id love to increase it, try to make it interesting, I'd love to show im kinda fun and funny and a cheeky person etc its so hard
youre welcome
Im trying find another job
Id feel pretty fucked if this was it for life
hi
anyone here? <3
Hi
hi hi hru
fine, hru tho
im dealing with ppl shit rn. hru? <3
sounds like that sucks, fine at the moment, just gaming and trying to relax.
Im actually struggling with the stigma of this job, Im just finding it really hard
I think I might be not 100 percent just for other stuff too like Im bored all the time when I get home, not got many in person social connections, theres stuff I want to do like go to diffrent places to eat, rent an rv out, drive some diffrent cars but all that stuff is hard alone, its doable like no rule saying I can't do it alone but its just it's just kinda rubbish alone. If I had a relationship I could do this stuff, I'd have someone to do it with but I don’t so it sucks. People say go to social clubs and stuff but I find it hard I don't know why, I think its like social issues, I'm too scared to even say hi myself to anyone at work like I guess im scared of people not wanting to talk to me and stuff, Id like to make a few friends there, a couple of people have nicish cars and I'd like to talk about to them but can't like say nice car or ask about them.
Hey @Redemption <3 Things sound tough right now, and while I know our situations are different, I can kind of relate to what you said about being scared to talk to people - that's definitely been my experience as well. Even saying small things like hi or making small talk is pretty scary for me too, so I can understand where you're coming from. I do wish I could give you some advice but the best I can do is remind you that you're a genuinely kind person and I know you'll find someone one day who you can connect with and share things like that with. Also sending virtual hugs <3
Thank you, that means so much ❤️
I'm not feeling well at all, got a temp last night and went to bed at 8pm. Despite that I must have watched about 6 shows bc I couldn't sleep so today is gonna be fun
I cancelled a hidden strength chat last night, like it was just when you let your intrusive thoughts win, like I didn't want to cancel it or anything, it was with someone whos so nice too. I don't know how to explain it but I had like this intrusive thought telling me to cancel the session even though it would have been so helpful and there's no way of me arranging, the only way to rearrange is to book through a drop in appointment but I can't have one of them till 7 days of my last chat.
Hey @Redemption fighting against intrusive thoughts can be so hard, and it is confusing understanding why we do things that may not be what we think is the right thing to do. You mentioned earlier that you sometimes struggle with social situations, do you think you the social interaction of the chat may have caused you to want to cancel?
Argument with mum.
@Verity thank you, it wasn’t that which caused me to cancel the chat, like I find texting on these services easy, its in person i struggle with social situations. Its so stupid it like my intrusive thoughts just made me cancel it, ive screwed it up
Everyone seems to have good jobs and nice cars and more money than me
@Redemption thanks for explaining how the intrusive thoughts felt in that momement, that mkes things a lot more clear, how did you feel when you canelled the call, would you say it brought you some sort of relief?
I felt fustration @Verity , it's like I didn't want to but my intrusive thoughts made me