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Valentine’s Day
Redemption
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It hits hard that its Valentine’s Day tomorrow and Im just going to be spending it on my own at home. Its kind of depressing, I'm 24 , never dated, I'm still a virgin. I wanted to wait till I got a job but was open before too, I'm quite intrested now like I actually would date someone if they were nice, this issue is I dont have anyone. I don't want some rubbish relationship for the sake of it like I dont want anyone toxic, I worry about that too, I want to find someone special and be with me on my journey, pursue my hobbies, have a future with etc. Im not sure how it will happen, in person im too scared to talk to people my social issues make it hard to join groups, go out etc. Its tough. Its pretty sad spending Valentine’s Day on my own and I wanna switch it, I want to find someone. Happy valentines day for tomorrow anyway everyone ❤️.
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Hey @Redemption, thanks for sharing this post. I imagine that others here will resonate with what you've said too. I can hear how Valentine's Day can be a difficult day for you. As you've mentioned wanting to look for a relationship, it's good to hear that you're open to it (especially now that you have a job). It makes sense that you want to look for a good relationship with a special person that you can walk through life together and share your interests. You mention that talking to people is difficult, and you're not alone in that - many people find that first step to be a big leap of faith. It might feel uncomfortable, but it's a leap of faith to connect with people better and find friends and potential partners. As for today - I hope you're able to do something nice for yourself. We're here to support you through this.
Hey @Redemption , thank you for making this post also. I really appreciate you being so open and honest, and I can imagine that a lot of other people might be able to relate to what you're saying too. I really hear how, on the one hand, socializing in person and making those new connections can feel really daunting, and at the same time, you're really wanting some more closeness and intimacy and companionship in your life. That sounds really hard, and everything you're feeling today is so valid. I hope you allow yourself some space for these feelings to breathe and be treated with kindness. We're here with you as your Community.
Thank you @Sian321
@Azziman I really appreciate that, thank you
Thank you for the replies and virtual hugs, I know its on 7 hugs but it means so much that I have several people behind me and Im not alone, thank you all ❤️
@Redemption We are all here for you! You're not alone in this. How are you feeling today now that Valentine's Day has passed I wonder?
@Callum thank you, I still alone in terms of not having a partner , I do believe it will come, maybe in appropriate settings I could just say hi to people and try to make a convo, its hard though, I do really really want to find someone but Im not desperate where I'd take a rubbish relationship for the sake of it. Its still kinda hard, before and after coz I was feeling alone in terms of this anyway. Thank you for replying anyway
@Redemption It makes sense you're still feeling alone, but it will come one day. Of course, it's easy to get frustrated and feel like it won't happen, but I have faith in you that it will happen soon (probably when you least expect it, as a lot of people tend to say!). You're doing the right thing by waiting for the right person, it shows how thoughtful you are!
Thank you @Callum , kind comment and tbf I think similar thing with my job happened, I got it when I least expected it. Hopefully the right person comes soon