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Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 19.01.26
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For example, I told this new boy about my ex, his name and some stuff about him, only out of confidence because I was anxious about my ex at the time. Only yesterday did I find out in the comments of a social media live, that this boy was asking around saying oh where is *my exes name* tiktok page, whats his social media, and it just drove my anxiety even further. All because I don't want my ex to find out I was talking to this guy. It would just cause drama.
It just drives me into a wild panic. I keep asking chat GPT (lol) what is the likelihood that this guy will message my ex, and it keeps saying very very low chance, but I have asked about 5-6 times, because I do not feel reassured. How do I reduce my panic and anxiety. Please any tips on how you regulate your anxiety in a situation like this.
Hey there @Ech0
Hey Ech0, im OK, i hope you're well
@Nemuritai That is very cool, reading full Japanese novels does not sound easy at all and is no small feat so no wonder you are proud. We are proud of you too.
@Redemption That sounds really stressful and a pain to be dealing with. I hope it is only temporary and gets sorted soon.
What happened doesn’t mean you did anything wrong, and it doesn’t mean something bad is about to happen either. Someone asking about your ex’s social media can understandably feel scary, but it doesn’t mean it will lead to trouble or drama. Chances are, it’s just their curiosity, not a judgment or a reflection on you in any way. It’s your brain’s way of keeping you safe, imagining what could go wrong, but that doesn’t mean it will.
It’s okay to have turned to someone or talked about your ex. You were feeling anxious and seeking comfort and you were doing the best you could in that moment. You deserve kindness and understanding for opening up as speaking about your feelings takes a lot of courage.
When anxiety hits, it can feel overwhelming, but there are some things you can do to help yourself feel calmer and more grounded. Slow and deep breaths can help signal to your body that you’re safe and even noticing your feet on the floor or the sensations around you can help bring you back to the present moment. Writing down what’s worrying you and then reminding yourself which parts are facts and which are your brain imagining possibilities can help to ease racing thoughts.
Moving your body a little, whether it’s stretching, walking or otherwise may also help release some tension.
Your feelings are always real, valid and worthy of care and there is nothing wrong in feeling them fully. We’re listening, we are here to support if you need and you don’t have to go through this alone.
I just wanted to check in and see how you are doing today?
Has the anxiety settled at all?
Hi, what's with the sad face? No pressure to share but we are here if anything is bothering you
hi, thank you so much for checking in! I think I am less anxious about the situation itself. I had an argument with my ex yesterday. I am finding it difficult to regulate my emotions. It was so unrelated. I am not even meant to be speaking to him, if any of my friends or family found out, they would go mad. Only one girl knows and I am not even close with her on a level, but shes sort of the 'middle man' between me and him. It felt a little like she sided with him yesterday, but it is fine. I think it was because I was angry, anxious, upset, frustrated, so I was swearing at him and let it all out- and it was wrong. He wouldn't argue back, and I felt like I needed an answer.
It is funny because before, it used to be ME ignoring HIS arguments. Now that I am left with the trauma of the relationship, family drama, friendship breakups, I feel hurt. I feel that everyone runs away from me, even when I am begging for it to work. I think I have realised that the reason I have started to shout more, get angry with people and swear, let it out- is because I am so OKAY with people leaving my life now. I will block you if you annoy me. I won't put up with it anymore.
But I will also push you away before you can push ME away, because I am fed up of letting people close to me.
I don't think its healthy, but in the moment, I can't stop my anger. I need to let it out. Maybe not on people, as its wrong and I IMMEDIATELY regret it an hour later, I feel guilty.
It's a rollercoaster. I am really struggling regulating my emotions today.
Long story short, I came on here just now because I am feeling anxious right now, but I don't know why. I am not anxious about the situation right now. But I don't know why I am anxious.
got so much shit going on atm. but thankyou.
@eylah sending lots of hugs 🫂 I'm here for you if you need anything
Nw, if there's anything we can do to help you know where we are ❤️
Always here if you need to talk.
Hi @unknowngirly777
That sounds like a lot of emotion to be processing all at once and quite overwhelming. So it makes sense that you are struggling to regulate your emotions at the moment, and that is ok. It's also great that you've recognised this.
Has anything in the past helped you regulate your anger or other emotions?
Also I hear how you're not sure about why you anxious. Sometimes I find my anxiety can just hit me out of seemingly no-where on some days which can be really frustrating. On these days what helps me most is remembering things that I can do which make me feel more calm even if its just for 10 mins, for example I find doodling really settles my anxiety. @Ech0 also had mentioned some great ideas for feeling more calm in their post. Sometimes I also have found that later on in the week I come to realise what was actually causing my anxiety as well.
It also makes so much sense that you’re feeling torn between pushing people away and wanting them to stay. When you’ve been hurt repeatedly, protecting yourself can start to feel safer than letting anyone get close. You’re allowed to take things at your own pace, to let people in slowly or to step back when you need to.
Sometimes anxiety shows up even when there isn’t a clear reason for it and that can be really confusing. It might just be your body holding onto everything it’s been dealing with for a while now. There’s nothing wrong with you for feeling this way and it could mean that you’ve been under a lot and we are truly proud of you for doing your best.
You don’t have to have all the answers or fix anything right now. You’re not alone in this and we are here to listen, to hold space for you and to support you however you need. Your feelings matter and so do you.
Relatable
My family has stopped fighting, I hope yours has as well.
Im glad they've stopped but yh it happens, not happened atm though
@so_very_tired I’m really sorry you had to deal with your family fighting, but I’m glad they have stopped fighting. We are here to listen and support you if you ever need a shoulder to lean on.