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DancerDancer Community Connector Posts: 8,174 Legendary Poster
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I have been struggling with my grief. Not only did my mum pass away suddenly last June but I have also recently suffered another loss. Someone who was like family to me passed away at the beginning of November. She had terminal cancer and ended up in a hospice. I knew that she was never going to get better and the cancer would eventually kill her but it felt quite quick with the deterioration. She was a woman that was stubborn and she wanted to go to the south of France (but sadly didn`t get to.) Her funeral is coming up in a few weeks. I have been talking to my therapist about my feelings about everything and she feels that it might be a bit too soon for me to go to another funeral although she has suggested maybe going to the wake afterwards if I feel up to it. I have been struggling with my PTSD quite a bit and I had a flashback during my therapy session and then started crying. Things weigh down on me a lot and I have sometimes had some not very nice thoughts but at least I am trying to get better. I go to therapy. I take antidepressants. I try to get out of the house.
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  • AzzimanAzziman Discussion Boards Moderator Posts: 2,464 Boards Champion

    Hey @Dancer, thank you for sharing your experience with us. I'm sorry to hear that you've experienced losing another person who you were close to. Your feelings are valid - even when we know someone's days may be numbered, it still carries a lot of pain when we lose them. It's good to hear that you've got the support of a therapist to help you navigate this, though I can hear how PTSD and flashbacks can be difficult to go through. How do you feel about going to the funeral or wake, in your own opinion? We're here to listen to you and support you through this.

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  • 63marie63marie Posts: 93 Budding Regular
    Hey @Dancer, sorry for the late reply. Thank you for opening up about this, it sounds like you've been dealing with a lot and it's totally valid that you're struggling. It sounds like you're trying really hard to keep doing all the things you're doing, even if they feel really hard. I'm glad you've got your therapist to support you. How do you feel about what she suggested? It's really important that you look after yourself and only do what feels manageable for you. Whatever you decide doesn't change how much they meant to you.
    I'm really sorry to hear that you've been struggling with your PTSD too, that sounds really frightening. You deserve support to help you deal with this - I'm glad you've got someone you can talk to. We're always here too if you ever need someone to listen. You're doing the best you can in a really tough time <3
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