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Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 03.11.25

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  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 193 Trailblazer
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    @toffuna101 yes, I have! I write diary entries, and I especially love writing japanese poetry 💙 I'll try and put a photo here so you can see (hopefully this loads hehe)
    itxdslar6w1d.jpg

    thats impressive. what does it say?

    I don't think I can translate it here since it's quite dark to be honest - most of my poems are, it's just kind of therapeutic to write my feelings out when I'm feeling low 💙
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,593 Community Veteran
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    @toffuna101 yes, I have! I write diary entries, and I especially love writing japanese poetry 💙 I'll try and put a photo here so you can see (hopefully this loads hehe)
    itxdslar6w1d.jpg

    thats impressive. what does it say?

    I don't think I can translate it here since it's quite dark to be honest - most of my poems are, it's just kind of therapeutic to write my feelings out when I'm feeling low 💙

    fair enough. have you used duolingo before to learn more japanese? i heard its pretty good.
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 193 Trailblazer
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    @toffuna101 yes, I have! I write diary entries, and I especially love writing japanese poetry 💙 I'll try and put a photo here so you can see (hopefully this loads hehe)
    itxdslar6w1d.jpg

    thats impressive. what does it say?

    I don't think I can translate it here since it's quite dark to be honest - most of my poems are, it's just kind of therapeutic to write my feelings out when I'm feeling low 💙

    fair enough. have you used duolingo before to learn more japanese? i heard its pretty good.

    Yes, that's where I started learning japanese actually ^^ then after a year or so I progressed on to textbooks and consuming more native-level material 💙 Out of curiosity, where did you start learning russian?
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,593 Community Veteran
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    @toffuna101 yes, I have! I write diary entries, and I especially love writing japanese poetry 💙 I'll try and put a photo here so you can see (hopefully this loads hehe)
    itxdslar6w1d.jpg

    thats impressive. what does it say?

    I don't think I can translate it here since it's quite dark to be honest - most of my poems are, it's just kind of therapeutic to write my feelings out when I'm feeling low 💙

    fair enough. have you used duolingo before to learn more japanese? i heard its pretty good.

    Yes, that's where I started learning japanese actually ^^ then after a year or so I progressed on to textbooks and consuming more native-level material 💙 Out of curiosity, where did you start learning russian?

    my parents both know russian so i kind of just learnt it from them. i didnt take russian as a gcse because i can understand it but i cant really read or write it which sucks. they did say back then that i would receive tutoring, but honestly even with tutoring i dont think i can even get a 4 for foundation russian because its quite hard for me to learn it in the first place. so i didnt take it.
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 193 Trailblazer
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    @toffuna101 yes, I have! I write diary entries, and I especially love writing japanese poetry 💙 I'll try and put a photo here so you can see (hopefully this loads hehe)
    itxdslar6w1d.jpg

    thats impressive. what does it say?

    I don't think I can translate it here since it's quite dark to be honest - most of my poems are, it's just kind of therapeutic to write my feelings out when I'm feeling low 💙

    fair enough. have you used duolingo before to learn more japanese? i heard its pretty good.

    Yes, that's where I started learning japanese actually ^^ then after a year or so I progressed on to textbooks and consuming more native-level material 💙 Out of curiosity, where did you start learning russian?

    my parents both know russian so i kind of just learnt it from them. i didnt take russian as a gcse because i can understand it but i cant really read or write it which sucks. they did say back then that i would receive tutoring, but honestly even with tutoring i dont think i can even get a 4 for foundation russian because its quite hard for me to learn it in the first place. so i didnt take it.

    Oh, I see. To be fair, I've heard russian is quite a hard language, so it's definitely not just you. Though if you ever decide to start learning I wish you luck 💙
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,593 Community Veteran
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    @toffuna101 yes, I have! I write diary entries, and I especially love writing japanese poetry 💙 I'll try and put a photo here so you can see (hopefully this loads hehe)
    itxdslar6w1d.jpg

    thats impressive. what does it say?

    I don't think I can translate it here since it's quite dark to be honest - most of my poems are, it's just kind of therapeutic to write my feelings out when I'm feeling low 💙

    fair enough. have you used duolingo before to learn more japanese? i heard its pretty good.

    Yes, that's where I started learning japanese actually ^^ then after a year or so I progressed on to textbooks and consuming more native-level material 💙 Out of curiosity, where did you start learning russian?

    my parents both know russian so i kind of just learnt it from them. i didnt take russian as a gcse because i can understand it but i cant really read or write it which sucks. they did say back then that i would receive tutoring, but honestly even with tutoring i dont think i can even get a 4 for foundation russian because its quite hard for me to learn it in the first place. so i didnt take it.

    Oh, I see. To be fair, I've heard russian is quite a hard language, so it's definitely not just you. Though if you ever decide to start learning I wish you luck 💙

    thanks. what are your plans for the rest of this evening?
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 193 Trailblazer
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    @toffuna101 yes, I have! I write diary entries, and I especially love writing japanese poetry 💙 I'll try and put a photo here so you can see (hopefully this loads hehe)
    itxdslar6w1d.jpg

    thats impressive. what does it say?

    I don't think I can translate it here since it's quite dark to be honest - most of my poems are, it's just kind of therapeutic to write my feelings out when I'm feeling low 💙

    fair enough. have you used duolingo before to learn more japanese? i heard its pretty good.

    Yes, that's where I started learning japanese actually ^^ then after a year or so I progressed on to textbooks and consuming more native-level material 💙 Out of curiosity, where did you start learning russian?

    my parents both know russian so i kind of just learnt it from them. i didnt take russian as a gcse because i can understand it but i cant really read or write it which sucks. they did say back then that i would receive tutoring, but honestly even with tutoring i dont think i can even get a 4 for foundation russian because its quite hard for me to learn it in the first place. so i didnt take it.

    Oh, I see. To be fair, I've heard russian is quite a hard language, so it's definitely not just you. Though if you ever decide to start learning I wish you luck 💙

    thanks. what are your plans for the rest of this evening?

    I think I'm going to get an early night's rest soon, and hopefully I'll feel less ill tomorrow. Have you got any plans for this evening?
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,593 Community Veteran
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    @toffuna101 yes, I have! I write diary entries, and I especially love writing japanese poetry 💙 I'll try and put a photo here so you can see (hopefully this loads hehe)
    itxdslar6w1d.jpg

    thats impressive. what does it say?

    I don't think I can translate it here since it's quite dark to be honest - most of my poems are, it's just kind of therapeutic to write my feelings out when I'm feeling low 💙

    fair enough. have you used duolingo before to learn more japanese? i heard its pretty good.

    Yes, that's where I started learning japanese actually ^^ then after a year or so I progressed on to textbooks and consuming more native-level material 💙 Out of curiosity, where did you start learning russian?

    my parents both know russian so i kind of just learnt it from them. i didnt take russian as a gcse because i can understand it but i cant really read or write it which sucks. they did say back then that i would receive tutoring, but honestly even with tutoring i dont think i can even get a 4 for foundation russian because its quite hard for me to learn it in the first place. so i didnt take it.

    Oh, I see. To be fair, I've heard russian is quite a hard language, so it's definitely not just you. Though if you ever decide to start learning I wish you luck 💙

    thanks. what are your plans for the rest of this evening?

    I think I'm going to get an early night's rest soon, and hopefully I'll feel less ill tomorrow. Have you got any plans for this evening?

    alright, i hope you have a goodnight. im probably just gonna chill for one more hour before going to bed too. hopefully i dont pull an all nighter like i almost did last time.
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 193 Trailblazer
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    @toffuna101 yes, I have! I write diary entries, and I especially love writing japanese poetry 💙 I'll try and put a photo here so you can see (hopefully this loads hehe)
    itxdslar6w1d.jpg

    thats impressive. what does it say?

    I don't think I can translate it here since it's quite dark to be honest - most of my poems are, it's just kind of therapeutic to write my feelings out when I'm feeling low 💙

    fair enough. have you used duolingo before to learn more japanese? i heard its pretty good.

    Yes, that's where I started learning japanese actually ^^ then after a year or so I progressed on to textbooks and consuming more native-level material 💙 Out of curiosity, where did you start learning russian?

    my parents both know russian so i kind of just learnt it from them. i didnt take russian as a gcse because i can understand it but i cant really read or write it which sucks. they did say back then that i would receive tutoring, but honestly even with tutoring i dont think i can even get a 4 for foundation russian because its quite hard for me to learn it in the first place. so i didnt take it.

    Oh, I see. To be fair, I've heard russian is quite a hard language, so it's definitely not just you. Though if you ever decide to start learning I wish you luck 💙

    thanks. what are your plans for the rest of this evening?

    I think I'm going to get an early night's rest soon, and hopefully I'll feel less ill tomorrow. Have you got any plans for this evening?

    alright, i hope you have a goodnight. im probably just gonna chill for one more hour before going to bed too. hopefully i dont pull an all nighter like i almost did last time.

    Aw, I really hope you get some sleep too. It was really nice chatting with you 💙
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,593 Community Veteran
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    @toffuna101 yes, I have! I write diary entries, and I especially love writing japanese poetry 💙 I'll try and put a photo here so you can see (hopefully this loads hehe)
    itxdslar6w1d.jpg

    thats impressive. what does it say?

    I don't think I can translate it here since it's quite dark to be honest - most of my poems are, it's just kind of therapeutic to write my feelings out when I'm feeling low 💙

    fair enough. have you used duolingo before to learn more japanese? i heard its pretty good.

    Yes, that's where I started learning japanese actually ^^ then after a year or so I progressed on to textbooks and consuming more native-level material 💙 Out of curiosity, where did you start learning russian?

    my parents both know russian so i kind of just learnt it from them. i didnt take russian as a gcse because i can understand it but i cant really read or write it which sucks. they did say back then that i would receive tutoring, but honestly even with tutoring i dont think i can even get a 4 for foundation russian because its quite hard for me to learn it in the first place. so i didnt take it.

    Oh, I see. To be fair, I've heard russian is quite a hard language, so it's definitely not just you. Though if you ever decide to start learning I wish you luck 💙

    thanks. what are your plans for the rest of this evening?

    I think I'm going to get an early night's rest soon, and hopefully I'll feel less ill tomorrow. Have you got any plans for this evening?

    alright, i hope you have a goodnight. im probably just gonna chill for one more hour before going to bed too. hopefully i dont pull an all nighter like i almost did last time.

    Aw, I really hope you get some sleep too. It was really nice chatting with you 💙

    it was nice chatting with you too.
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,593 Community Veteran
    wow i actually had a childline counsellor who actually listened to my problems. 🤯
    dont mind me using the boards at 3am lol.
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 193 Trailblazer
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    wow i actually had a childline counsellor who actually listened to my problems. 🤯
    dont mind me using the boards at 3am lol.

    I know, it's hard to know what you'll get when you speak to childline, it can kind of go either way. In any case, I'm glad you spoke to someone helpful.
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,593 Community Veteran
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    wow i actually had a childline counsellor who actually listened to my problems. 🤯
    dont mind me using the boards at 3am lol.

    I know, it's hard to know what you'll get when you speak to childline, it can kind of go either way. In any case, I'm glad you spoke to someone helpful.

    thanks, yeah it depends on who you get really. how was your sleep?
  • maimai Posts: 113 The Mix Convert
    i feel so silly for this but rn i’m with my sister as she’s getting her nails done. i’m anxious about being in a place ive never been before. they have rly loud music on too which i hate. im just sat here panicking and dont even feel able to speak. i hate me sm.
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 193 Trailblazer
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    wow i actually had a childline counsellor who actually listened to my problems. 🤯
    dont mind me using the boards at 3am lol.

    I know, it's hard to know what you'll get when you speak to childline, it can kind of go either way. In any case, I'm glad you spoke to someone helpful.

    thanks, yeah it depends on who you get really. how was your sleep?

    Hi, I didn't see this until just now sry 💙 Not too bad, thx - did you get any sleep?
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,593 Community Veteran
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    wow i actually had a childline counsellor who actually listened to my problems. 🤯
    dont mind me using the boards at 3am lol.

    I know, it's hard to know what you'll get when you speak to childline, it can kind of go either way. In any case, I'm glad you spoke to someone helpful.

    thanks, yeah it depends on who you get really. how was your sleep?

    Hi, I didn't see this until just now sry 💙 Not too bad, thx - did you get any sleep?

    no
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 193 Trailblazer
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    wow i actually had a childline counsellor who actually listened to my problems. 🤯
    dont mind me using the boards at 3am lol.

    I know, it's hard to know what you'll get when you speak to childline, it can kind of go either way. In any case, I'm glad you spoke to someone helpful.

    thanks, yeah it depends on who you get really. how was your sleep?

    Hi, I didn't see this until just now sry 💙 Not too bad, thx - did you get any sleep?

    no

    Aw I'm sorry to hear that, hopefully you can get some rest soon. Sending hugs <3
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,593 Community Veteran
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    wow i actually had a childline counsellor who actually listened to my problems. 🤯
    dont mind me using the boards at 3am lol.

    I know, it's hard to know what you'll get when you speak to childline, it can kind of go either way. In any case, I'm glad you spoke to someone helpful.

    thanks, yeah it depends on who you get really. how was your sleep?

    Hi, I didn't see this until just now sry 💙 Not too bad, thx - did you get any sleep?

    no

    Aw I'm sorry to hear that, hopefully you can get some rest soon. Sending hugs <3

    thanks
  • so_very_tiredso_very_tired Posts: 461 Listening Ear
    This is pretty much me responding and apologizing to everyone on the thread that had something to say about me and my recent actions. If you're wondering why this took so long, it's because my mental health has took a significant dip and I haven't felt this bad in months.

    @Redemption I know that I have apologised and that is better than defending my crappy actions but I know this will probably happen again. I have a problem with speaking my mind which basically means I just say what's on my mind without considering if this will hurt someone. Why I do this, I have no idea? My guess is my autism but I honestly have no clue. And while you might say something wrong every now and then, like @Nathan said, me being a twat is pretty constant and pretty much happens at every interaction I have here so it'll be best if I leave this community.

    @Nathan I agree with @eylah with their point, couldn't of said it better. I plan to put this all behind us when I delete my account and wipe my existence from here and hopefully everyone can just move on and pretend none of this ever happened. I know you still say I'm part of the community, but even though you are right in saying that, I don't deserve to be in this community and I wouldn't be surprised if one or two people agree with me on this point.

    @mai You probably going to ignore this so I don't know why I'm doing this, but I am sorry. Why did I think it was a good idea to say what I said. My dumbass ass autistic braindead head thought it was a good idea for some reason. I know you dont care and probably not going to read this but id like to say im sorry.

    @River I am sorry. Why I decided to be unsupportive, same reason as @mai I'm just braindead or something.

    @TheMix Can you DM so we can discuss deleting my account?

    That's it. I know this isn't great and I probably missed someone but it took me hours to write this down.
    Probably because I instead wanted to lie in my bed and die. (I'm safe)
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 9,831 Supreme Poster
    im rly having a difficult day. i know it’s only 11am.. but im rly not in a gd mindset :(. my brain is filled with so much shit it rly is tricky. :(. i wish i could go back to sleep for a few hours but i cant. :/
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 193 Trailblazer
    I know this is kind of a minor thing to vent about but I'm turning 16 tomorrow and for whatever reason I always feel pretty sad around birthdays. Of course I'm excited as well, it's just that I start thinking about all the things I haven't achieved the past year and it gets me down. I don't know whether that's just me, and maybe it sounds silly, but I wanted to get it off my chest.
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 193 Trailblazer
    eylah wrote: »
    im rly having a difficult day. i know it’s only 11am.. but im rly not in a gd mindset :(. my brain is filled with so much shit it rly is tricky. :(. i wish i could go back to sleep for a few hours but i cant. :/

    Hey @eylah, I know the feeling and I'm sorry you're feeling down today. I know it sounds kind of clichéd but it's okay to not be okay. I'm here for you and I'll always listen if you want to talk about anything at all <3 Take care of yourself <3
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 10,013 An Original Mixlorian
    @so_very_tired I’m so sorry to hear things have been so difficult for you lately, and I think, for what its worth, that every single person here will be able to acknowledge that things sometimes get said that shouldn’t be said when we’re feeling like shit. I’ve done it too, as have most people here.

    While I did feel irritated by some things you have said, it’s not a grudge I’m prepared to hold - you are still very much welcome here and I don’t think anyone intended to make you feel you weren’t. I think what happened was, you had been saying some things that had made people feel dismissed, and eventually it became too much and they felt they had to say something to you. The thing is, if these things aren’t communicated, it just builds up and builds up, and people eventually snap.

    I really feel you are capable of positive change and, if you did feel you wanted to stick around, we would support you in that. You deserve to be supported as much as the next person, and no one would want you to be isolated in such a hard time.

    When you’re in a space full of people from different walks of life, there are bound to be disagreements and personality clashes in some places, and that’s normal. It doesn’t mean you have to leave, but at the same time, people might feel in their own mind that they need to call it out, and that’s ok too so long as it’s done respectfully (which here, i think it was). It’s not a sign from the universe, it’s part of interacting with other people online in particular.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,593 Community Veteran
    im gonna use rightlines today like i did last time because they really helped me.
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,909 Part of The Furniture
    @so_very_tired it might be hard but dont be so harsh on yourself mate, you made a mistake we all do it and people have done way worse. You said you didn't intend to come across how you did too, you were trying to help, you have apologised, taken responsibility, thats all you can do. You're accepting it was wrong. We are a forgiving community. I've said not the best things here myself at times but Ive been forgiven. Im sorry to hear that you’re deleting your account, we will miss you as I said but we respect your decision and if you wanted to pop back in the future you'll be welcome to. Please remember whatever you have said or done, you are worthy.

    Here's some services if you need

    https://kellysheroes.org.uk/
    These are normally pretty good they open at 6 pm till 10pm Monday to Friday and open on weekends 6pm till 11pm


    https://www.myblackdog.co/
    These are pretty good but only open Sunday to Wednesday 7pm till 10pm


    https://knus.io/
    This is a peer to peer support service, someone should set you up through a peer and chats are done through what's app


    Shout is a text messaging service, open 24 hours but at night it takes a very long time to get through, text 85258


    Phone service
    Call 116 123
    and has text service but it only works for some
    https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,593 Community Veteran
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    im gonna use rightlines today like i did last time because they really helped me.

    update: i had a really good experience with them again, the rightlines volunteer was so nice and supportive.
  • so_very_tiredso_very_tired Posts: 461 Listening Ear
    @Redemption Thanks for the kind words and thanks for the services, normally I wouldn't bother checking them out, but I might just do it because I am honestly feeling like utter crap right now. I also have no idea if I'm going or not, I might just deactivate my account purely due to my mental health. I feel like I delete my account and kiss the mix goodbye, I will probably hit my tipping point and do something really stupid to put it simply. I can't say for sure though, but I will have my decision made by the end of the day. If I do deactivate my account, no idea when I'll be back, I might return after a I feel better and I treat others better as well.
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 9,831 Supreme Poster
    how is everyone? <3
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 193 Trailblazer
    eylah wrote: »
    how is everyone? <3
    Good evening <3 I'm feeling a bit low but I'm holding up okay. How are you?
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 9,831 Supreme Poster
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    how is everyone? <3
    Good evening <3 I'm feeling a bit low but I'm holding up okay. How are you?

    i’m here for you. <3 im not the best but dw abt me <3.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
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