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Inappropriate reaction to criticism
bignosegirly0
Posts: 438 Listening Ear
Despite feeling unnecessary angry and explosive, a part of me knows that what I’m feeling is wrong and I know that once I calm down, I will deeply regret my actions. This is the better way for me to express my emotions than to say rude things to others or cancel important plans
My father is always critiquing everything I do. I’m useless to him, nothing is ever good enough, and he always insists to do everything I do.
I do ask him to help me with my writing, and I have no issues with him rewriting my sentences or telling me what’s wrong with it. But he’s such a cunt about it.
He reads one sentence where I thank the interviewer for “our interview”. Using “our” is likely not correct. But he reads the first sentence and says my whole email is rubbish.
He doesn’t even read the rest of it, and says everything is terrible. I called him a “fat cunt” in response. Although, it was very unnecessary to call him that. Regardless, he always behave like a cunt.
I’m thinking about cancelling my interview because writing is massively involved in the apprenticeship that I’ve applied for. If I can’t write basic proper sentences, then I don’t deserve the role.
Nothing is ever good enough for that miserable cunt. No wonder everyone fucking hates him at his workplace. Hes a miserable twat.
My father is always critiquing everything I do. I’m useless to him, nothing is ever good enough, and he always insists to do everything I do.
I do ask him to help me with my writing, and I have no issues with him rewriting my sentences or telling me what’s wrong with it. But he’s such a cunt about it.
He reads one sentence where I thank the interviewer for “our interview”. Using “our” is likely not correct. But he reads the first sentence and says my whole email is rubbish.
He doesn’t even read the rest of it, and says everything is terrible. I called him a “fat cunt” in response. Although, it was very unnecessary to call him that. Regardless, he always behave like a cunt.
I’m thinking about cancelling my interview because writing is massively involved in the apprenticeship that I’ve applied for. If I can’t write basic proper sentences, then I don’t deserve the role.
Nothing is ever good enough for that miserable cunt. No wonder everyone fucking hates him at his workplace. Hes a miserable twat.
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Comments
I'm sorry to hear about the way that your father treats you. It's not kind to be treated like you're not good enough all the time, and you deserve to be treated better and be supported. One word change in the first sentence of an entire email doesn't mean that the email is poorly written, especially if the person hasn't read the rest of it. Indeed, that's why we have tools such as spellcheck to pick up on errors when we write. Calling the entire email rubbish because of one word is a disproportionate and unconstructive response, and is not an indication of your ability to write an email by any means.
Applying for an apprenticeship can be a really good way to get into a career that you're interested in, by combining work experience with professional development. If the apprenticeship involves a lot of writing, then I'd imagine that they will help you to become better at it, by supporting you and giving you constructive advice on how to improve. As long as you're willing to work hard and learn, you'll be in a good position for an apprenticeship. Out of interest, what type of apprenticeship are you going for (as in, what career field are you looking to enter)?
I really hope that you don't cancel the interview based on your experience with your father. As I've said above, it's not a fair reflection of your ability to write. If nothing is good enough in his eyes, then it's not a reliable or healthy way to judge your own ability, since the answer will always be "not good enough" without any recognition of effort or progress. You've applied for this apprenticeship, and the company think that you're a good enough candidate to interview. I'd suggest that you go ahead with the interview, and let them make the decision on whether you're right for the position. How do you feel about this idea? We're here to support you through this.