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toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,470 Boards Guru
in Health & Wellbeing
im stressed about college because im supposed to complete this "light" mock by the 3rd of november and i have no idea what im doing. my tutor is going to be offline for the whole of the half term break so i have no one to ask for help so im essentially screwed. ive even been thinking about dropping out of college because of this to escape having to do the mock exam but i doubt my parents will let me. my mum says i have to do the full two years of college whilst my dad thinks that i should only do one year. but im only one half term in so how am i meant to deal with this? the pass mark is 40% too so i have to put some effort in it too.

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  • AnonymousToeAnonymousToe Posts: 2,780 Boards Guru
    It’s a mock, so it’s a practice, right? This is where you learn what to do, so you have the best chance in the real exam. I feel like the beginning part can be the hardest as you adjust. I felt like I was gonna have to drop out of uni but somehow I’m still here a year later lol. I expect it’ll get relatively easier as you adjust to it
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,847 Part of The Furniture
    I hope chat helped with all this. As I say your wellbeing is important, its ok to focus on that. Im not sure if you can have a chat with your parents on how its making you feel. You aren't alone with these feelings, exams are overwhelming even if its mock exams, revision, studying can be overwhelming too.

    I have some services here for you too, of course we are here for you too toffuna

    https://kellysheroes.org.uk/
    These are normally pretty good they open at 6 pm till 10pm Monday to Friday and open on weekends 6pm till 11pm



    https://knus.io/
    This is a peer to peer support service, someone should set you up through a peer and chats are done through what's app


    Shout is a text messaging service, open 24 hours but at night it takes a very long time to get through, text 85258


    Phone service
    Call 116 123
    and has text service but it only works for some
    https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/

  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,470 Boards Guru
    AnonymousToe wrote: »
    It’s a mock, so it’s a practice, right? This is where you learn what to do, so you have the best chance in the real exam. I feel like the beginning part can be the hardest as you adjust. I felt like I was gonna have to drop out of uni but somehow I’m still here a year later lol. I expect it’ll get relatively easier as you adjust to it
    Redemption wrote: »
    I hope chat helped with all this. As I say your wellbeing is important, its ok to focus on that. Im not sure if you can have a chat with your parents on how its making you feel. You aren't alone with these feelings, exams are overwhelming even if its mock exams, revision, studying can be overwhelming too.

    I have some services here for you too, of course we are here for you too toffuna

    https://kellysheroes.org.uk/
    These are normally pretty good they open at 6 pm till 10pm Monday to Friday and open on weekends 6pm till 11pm



    https://knus.io/
    This is a peer to peer support service, someone should set you up through a peer and chats are done through what's app


    Shout is a text messaging service, open 24 hours but at night it takes a very long time to get through, text 85258


    Phone service
    Call 116 123
    and has text service but it only works for some
    https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/


    thanks
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,470 Boards Guru
    my dad said that if i drop out of college now then i wont go on that disney cruise. so hes threatening me with that. i dont know what to do. i cant do this bloody mock exam.
    TW: medication
    its to the point where ive thought about stopping my meds in order to mentally escape this situation.
  • maimai Posts: 34 Boards Initiate
    i know it’s hard but at the end of the day, all you can do in the mock exam is your best and that is enough. whatever the outcome, your grades don’t ever define you. i can totally understand your situation though with the mock exams as im feeling the same way and very close to dropping out. good luck if you do the mock exam !
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,470 Boards Guru
    mai wrote: »
    i know it’s hard but at the end of the day, all you can do in the mock exam is your best and that is enough. whatever the outcome, your grades don’t ever define you. i can totally understand your situation though with the mock exams as im feeling the same way and very close to dropping out. good luck if you do the mock exam !

    thank you, but i dont think im gonna do this mock exam because of how hard it is. i might as well fail it.
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 9,672 Supreme Poster
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    my dad said that if i drop out of college now then i wont go on that disney cruise. so hes threatening me with that. i dont know what to do. i cant do this bloody mock exam.
    TW: medication
    its to the point where ive thought about stopping my meds in order to mentally escape this situation.

    i wouldn’t suggest stopping your medication without talking to a medical professional or whoever it was who prescribed your medication bc it can be dangerous depending what medication it is. i’m sry to hear he’s threatening you with if you don’t do the exam then you cant go. maybe giving the exam a go bc even if you do fail at the end of the day you gave it your all and that is all that one can expect from you. don’t force yourself but we’re here for you as a community. <3
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 2,800 Boards Guru
    Hi @toffuna101 thank you so much for making this post and opening up about what's going on for you. It sounds like this upcoming mock exam is feeling extremely anxiety-inducing, and I can hear how a part of you wants to leave the college in order to get away. I can imagine that feeling like so much pressure right now, on top of your Dad threatening to take away the cruise too.

    As @eylah mentioned and @mai too, I wonder whether this mock exam could be an opportunity to identify which parts of the course you feel more and then less confident about, and to get support ahead of the final exam? It's so valid to use mock exams as a form of practice, and to take things from there.

    I'm hearing though that the thought of sitting the exam and failing right now feels really, really scary and we hear you. May I ask, what are you most afraid might happen in this situation, and what feels like the hardest part?
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,470 Boards Guru
    eylah wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    my dad said that if i drop out of college now then i wont go on that disney cruise. so hes threatening me with that. i dont know what to do. i cant do this bloody mock exam.
    TW: medication
    its to the point where ive thought about stopping my meds in order to mentally escape this situation.

    i wouldn’t suggest stopping your medication without talking to a medical professional or whoever it was who prescribed your medication bc it can be dangerous depending what medication it is. i’m sry to hear he’s threatening you with if you don’t do the exam then you cant go. maybe giving the exam a go bc even if you do fail at the end of the day you gave it your all and that is all that one can expect from you. don’t force yourself but we’re here for you as a community. <3

    thank you, ill try to do it. but i dont know if ill be successful in doing the mock exam.
    Sian321 wrote: »
    Hi @toffuna101 thank you so much for making this post and opening up about what's going on for you. It sounds like this upcoming mock exam is feeling extremely anxiety-inducing, and I can hear how a part of you wants to leave the college in order to get away. I can imagine that feeling like so much pressure right now, on top of your Dad threatening to take away the cruise too.

    As @eylah mentioned and @mai too, I wonder whether this mock exam could be an opportunity to identify which parts of the course you feel more and then less confident about, and to get support ahead of the final exam? It's so valid to use mock exams as a form of practice, and to take things from there.

    I'm hearing though that the thought of sitting the exam and failing right now feels really, really scary and we hear you. May I ask, what are you most afraid might happen in this situation, and what feels like the hardest part?

    i guess i could get support ahead of the final exam yeah. im afraid that if i fail the mock exam my tutor wont give me good feedback in parents evening.
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