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making friends at college

toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,228 Boards Guru
in Sex & Relationships
so im a first year at college and i had my first proper day yesterday (last week was my induction) and its honestly so hard to make friends. like i try to make conversation with people but it goes nowhere. i wanna make friends with this one girl but today when we had a group project to complete she wasn't in my group so i couldn't talk to her. i mean i did talk to her in the morning a bit but it wasn't enough to form a friendship if that makes sense. i mean friendships just form overtime so i understand why this is not an instant process. but i dont even know where she hangs out during our breaks so i can't talk to her at that time. the thing is i was gonna join lunch club to try and make some friends but because of my changed timetable i can't join. i now have college on a tuesday, wednesday and thursday and on a tuesday and thursday i finish early so that's why. and on a wednesday i have class from 2:30pm to 4:45pm with a 15 minute break in between and lunch club starts at 12:45pm and lasts for like one hour (i think, it might be until like 2ish but i have no clue). plus the enrichment activities aren't really enrichment activities, a lot of them are just online. maybe the ones i selected are meant to be online but i was expecting them to be in-person. and i wanted to join the student representatives which is basically student council but that wasnt an option when i completed the form. therefore there's really no way to make friends unless if i talk to people in my class. this just sucks.

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  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,228 Boards Guru
    good news, i talked to the girl i wanted to be friends with and she says that she hangs out at the library so i went there and i shared her the genre of music that i listen to. she said that she recognised that genre which was pretty good. i think i made an acquaintance. hopefully this can turn into a friendship but we'll just have to wait and see.
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,228 Boards Guru
    and also lunch club starts at 12:30pm and finishes at 2:30pm so maybe on wednesdays i was thinking i could come a bit early to go there. i dont know if its worth it though.
  • Matthew_04Matthew_04 Discussion Boards Moderator Posts: 370 Listening Ear
    Super glad to hear that you've made an aquaintance! I know how difficult it can be to make friends at college but it sounds like you are handling it really well.
    Going to the lunch club on a wednesday sounds like a great way to meet more people and make more connections. Even just being able to see friendly faces around the campus can make all the difference!
    Let us know if you do decide to go and how it goes @toffuna101 You got this!
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,228 Boards Guru
    Matthew_04 wrote: »
    Super glad to hear that you've made an aquaintance! I know how difficult it can be to make friends at college but it sounds like you are handling it really well.
    Going to the lunch club on a wednesday sounds like a great way to meet more people and make more connections. Even just being able to see friendly faces around the campus can make all the difference!
    Let us know if you do decide to go and how it goes @toffuna101 You got this!

    yeah i probably will now that youve said it. thank you
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,228 Boards Guru
    nevermind i dont think im going to be friends with the acquaintance i made because we barely interacted today and i couldnt find her at break. im just going to go to lunch club tomorrow and see what happens.
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,382 Part of The Furniture
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    nevermind i dont think im going to be friends with the acquaintance i made because we barely interacted today and i couldnt find her at break. im just going to go to lunch club tomorrow and see what happens.

    You'll see them again, she might have just not been in college maybe not well or spent break somewhere else, maybe next time you see her get her phone number or socials if you're comfortable to ask and she's comfortable to give them. You've done so well to talk to them.
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,228 Boards Guru
    Redemption wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    nevermind i dont think im going to be friends with the acquaintance i made because we barely interacted today and i couldnt find her at break. im just going to go to lunch club tomorrow and see what happens.

    You'll see them again, she might have just not been in college maybe not well or spent break somewhere else, maybe next time you see her get her phone number or socials if you're comfortable to ask and she's comfortable to give them. You've done so well to talk to them.

    she was at college today and yeah i might ask for her phone number the next time i see her in class and at break.
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,228 Boards Guru
    my plan tomorrow for lunch club is to make at least one acquaintance. it would be even better if i make a friend but we'll see.
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