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@Redemption i fully get how demoralising that must be. It's hard to see time pass when you don't manage to achieve your goals that you set out to achieve despite trying your hardest. But for what it's worth, it may be a good idea to look at trying to do something on the side that you can make progress on 100% guaranteed, so that you can look at yourself at Christmas time assuming things don't change on the job front, and say, i did something this year and made progress. Working out is a good one for me personally and trying to build muscle up. But it can be anything. Something that improves yourself. Already this year redemption, you've done a training course, added to your cv, managed to get an interview and are improving, so that's something that shows progress. It's important to look at the things you have accomplished, not just the things you haven't been able to.
@Cutelivejazz i've been looking at my old lecture notes on it, and am just writing it up. Won't be too long.
There's a course coming up which is developing different skills and stuff like that for jobs @DonnerKebab I just want to work but probably going to look into it then apply to jobs alongside
Now, the tricky thing with your hyperactive brain as you said, would be that 45 minute sprints might be too long and impossible to focus in. So what could possibly work is much smaller sprints instead. Think a 10-20 minutes work sprint, and then a 5-10 minute break. Whatever works for your attention span. This way it isn't overwhelming, and can work for your attention span and hyperactivity. break your work into 10-20 minute tasks, and work through it bit by bit like that. It might work.
Secondly, the next thing i learnt is that with so many different modules requiring so much things in at certain times, it became a lot, so i made a work calendar. I would commit a certain amount of hours each week at a certain time, to each module, schedule when, and do the sprints in those time periods, no if's no buts. I would also leave a spare few hours in case something took longer, or i ended up procrastinating.
Now in your case, trying to organise the workload, so it doesn't pile up more and more each week, it would be a good idea to try and make a work schedule for those work sprints. At the very least, it makes managing deadlines and knowing what's due when a lot easier, even if none of this works.
@Redemption that's a good idea bro. Again, upskilling is an example of progress being made, and is something you should be proud of. Even if nothing works out by christmas, you can still look back at all the things you've added to your CV and say you've made progress this year. Improving isn't about getting to other peoples levels or getting better than others, improving is about being superior to who you were last year. And Redemption, you have been on courses, you've added to your CV, and that is plenty of progress, so well done.
@eylah i'm really sorry your struggling right now with things, my favourite twat in the world
Have you got any earphones or headphones to possibly block out the sound of the weather?
@Cutelivejazz that definitely sounds like emotional numbness to me. I've experienced it myself, and it's extremely difficult to deal with.
That sounds like an awful situation. You really should have been allowed to leave the room for triggering topics. They gave those sorts of options for my class when it came to dissecting stuff. Anybody who was triggered by it could leave for 15 minutes if they wanted. I think it's definitely worth talking with your pastoral teacher to actually have them contact the RE teacher and just put in place measures so she's aware for in future, rather than having to make up excuses like needing the toilet in the class, and having it get refused. (Btw, saying you feel like your gonna throw up is a slightly better excuse).
And imposter syndrome is entirely understandable. I felt that all the time and still do. When i did my first hackathon, there was groups who had expert programmers, AI data scientists, and all sorts. And there's me who was still learning basic coding. But the thing is, you're there to learn. You can't be expected to be super smart and know everything straight away, otherwise what would be the point of even going. Nobody knows everything. And you aren't stupid from all of our chats, i can promise you that, and as hard as this is, if somebody talks behind your back, they should be ignored. That's not someone who's opinion should matter.
I wish i had some advice to give you about your friend, but i don't really know what advice to give on that point.
@DonnerKebab really appreciate the positivity and everything like what more came really say. I just don’t feel like its anywhere near enough to be recognised often, Im sorry you have to keep repeating things to me. It's just people are harsh in me in life so its just tough, as well as feeling so rubbish myself
it’s just the weather / thunder. and I just keep remembering abt my mum.
thankyou so much for this. i needed to hear this. thankyou
No worries, we're always here, if you need someone im here as well as Im sure many others here are
thankyou. are you up to much today?
I just had a reunion with a course i did in June and got food. I got rejected from a job I got interviewed for recently and my family keep making comments putting me down about everything, its been tough recently especially and been tough for a long time as a whole.
sending you so many hugs. 🫂