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@Cutelivejazz that sounds extremely tricky. There is a possible chance you might be struggling with things like adhd, making it hard to concentrate on work. I'll write up everything i got taught about it, tonight for you.
Yh i understand all that @DonnerKebab im sorry you have to keep repeating yourself to me , millions of time's. It's just all a new in my brain as I just got rejected today its all roar in my brain, there's not support sessions on tomorrow, I normally use black dog but they aren't open tomorrow either. Talking here helps though so thank you so much bro
@Redemption for what it's worth, do you want to be on boards at like 8pm tomorrow when sessions usually are, and have a chit chat then? i'll be on at that time bro. You don't have to be alone tomorrow. Obviously getting rejected is going to hurt, and it's going to be a struggle for the first few days, and that's okay. I'm always happy to remind you of these things when you need it. You have nothing to be sorry about. Hearing it is one thing, but drilling it into yourself is another thing altogether. Just don't give up bro. Your breakthrough will come eventually.
@DonnerKebab yh ok sure, thank you so much. Are you ok to chat now for maybe half an hour to an hour, no pressure, I know how late it is.
@Cutelivejazz take care jazz, sleep well. I'm just sorry nobody else outside of the mix is listening to you and giving you the support you deserve for it. As you mentioned when you go to uni eventually though, you'll be able to get support from them privately, with counselling services provided on site, and some uni's even have there own gp you can sign up for. They could help you a lot when you eventually go. Btw, ADHD isn't just about showing your hyperactive, but it can be a case of struggling to be able to sit down on focus on things and mentally being hyperactive.
@Redemption of course i can mate. I'm staying up for a fair while tonight.
@DonnerKebab I appreciate that, it's been hard but I just need to keep going and keep reaching out for support, here and stuff. Hopefully I sleep after we finish chatting. How's your job searching going bro?
@Redemption a little tricky. I reached out to a few recruiters, i applied for a level 7 apprenticeship in AI, and i did get told they would be in touch to arrange an interview, but today i got an email saying they were having an issue accessing applications out of the blue, so they need to get that sorted, and then they'll go forward with the interview date. I'm trying, but that's all I can do. Hopefully that all goes well. And i just want to say, you are an absolute warrior, to still be trying after all of this. Not giving in. So many others are, but your still doing your best, and that's all that can be done. So you should be proud of yourself. We're all here for you bro, to give you whatever support we can.
Thank you so much man @DonnerKebab , I really deeply appreciate it and good luck with all that to you too, I saw you were talking to the amazing mods about your issues and its good you did that, I saw they helped you. Hopefully we both go uphill from here.
@Redemption yeah. i've not be able to talk about some major issues i've had, but for the mods there to have seen how much i was hurting from it all, the feeling of isolation i've had, them telling me their proud of me for giving others support and that they are here for me, and writing such a lovely message, it just struck a nerve, and made me really emotional. That's probably the happiest i've been for a long time, so i really can't say thank you enough to the mods in that chat.
And yeah, it will be uphill from here for both of us. Obviously they'll be bumps along the way, and there might be times we stumble, but we'll both make it bro. So long as we don't give up and keep trying.
@DonnerKebab the mods are amazing, they're incredible, they and the whole community gets me emotional regularly, similar here, saying theyre proud of me and everything, recognising my progress. Im really glad you're happy, the community makes me really happy too.
Thanks so much dude, we will both do it, the balls on our court bro.
@Redemption It is bro. all we can do is try our best, and eventually things will work out. And i want to say i'm proud of you too. It takes an immense amount of strength to keep going, to keep trying, and to never give up.
@DonnerKebab im proud of you too for speaking to the mods and getting through everything you have been through. Im going to sleep now but we could talk in the morning if you want. Im really sorry you're shocked from the news. Sleep well.
@Redemption yeah bro, here now. How are you?
@DonnerKebab I spoke to Kelly Hero's and Shout so they helped me to feel better so not too bad, what about you bro?
@Redemption not done much today. Just getting by as per usual.
Same not done much either @DonnerKebab just applying to jobs. Ive been crying a few times a bit about stuff but this job rejection is just new in my mind, I said I wasn't going to take it too hard but have.
@Redemption it's easier said than done trying not to take things too hard. And it will be painful, because it got your hopes up, only for it to not work out. It's okay to cry a bit about stuff like this, because it will be painful, but so long as you keep going and keep trying, you'll eventually get an opportunity.
@DonnerKebab it is ok to cry, even just a lot but personally Id do it in private just because of stigma and all that but nothing wrong with crying. Kelly's Hero's helped though and you are so I really really appreciate it bro.
@Redemption no worries bro, it's okay. I know what you mean about crying, and it is brave to admit to it and break that stigma. I'm the same in that i'll be stoic in public as much as i can, and then fall to pieces behind closed doors in private and cry. I'll admit it anonymously on here.
I'm glad Kelly's hero's were able to help you bro.
@DonnerKebab Im exactly the same, I have to be alone like no family or anything or work people etc. I sometimes just cry in bed or in my door like I have been doing but im glad I have all this support too.
@Redemption as i say, we are all here for you, and because it's all anonymous on here, it's okay to vent about everything, and just let it all out.
@Cutelivejazz one of the things it might be, is when under intense stress, anxiety or depression for such a long time, the brain has a way of numbing itself. Of making these things just emotionally numb rather than painful as a coping mechanism. I'm not saying this is the reason for certain, but it could be a contributing factor.
Ive made a thread about it, I just have been struggling for so long abd Christmas I find tough because its just another year ive failed again and we are only a few months off Christmas @DonnerKebab its looking unlikely things will change by then so its so so tough.