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Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 08.09.25
Katie
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Hey @DonnerKebab you still here now bro?
hey @Redemption , sorry i missed you last night. I'm on here if you want to chat mate
Thats ok bro @DonnerKebab , how are you?
@Cutelivejazz i promise your not bothering me at all. and i want to just tell you that you don't have any obligation to offer support to others when you yourself are struggling. Figuring out the right things to say can be tricky, and that makes it hard to offer support even in the best of times, so don't ever feel bad about it. Support is here for you because you deserve it. You don't have to earn it, you don't have to offer a certain level of support first to be able to get support yourself, you deserve support, and this is a place where you can get it. You aren't being useless. Just keep the science jokes running pls.
@Redemption just surviving as usual thanks. And you? I know you might be struggling right now about the job situation, but i just want to say, you should be proud of trying and never giving up. There will be more chances in future.
@Cutelivejazz that is pretty interesting. Sorry, had to step away for a moment. About the anxiety, do you feel comfortable talking a bit more about it?
Im a failure bro @DonnerKebab
@Cutelivejazz that must be pretty difficult. As we spoke a little about a few days back, it's best not to rely on your friend, and not expect much from them given everything. It's better to expect to be let down by them if they've let you down before and be prepared for it, than to blindly trust them and to be let down by them unexpectedly.
Missing your bestie is completely normal, because it's very much a case that you don't see them every day i'm guessing like you would have before. There isn't much i can say about making friends, but i will say, at least there's some decent and chill people. i'm guessing the workload is a lot more than before too?
@Cutelivejazz That sounds horrible. I know the answer to this is probably no, but surely they should have given you more support and put support in place for these panic attacks in future, like offering counselling or therapy, and management techniques. But at least you got cheered up after, even if it's a small consolation. And about uni, what course do you want to do?
@Redemption No you aren't. Things that are out of your control have made it extremely difficult for you. The poor job market, poor state of the economy, economic mismanagement from goverment, have all made it so that people are applying for hundreds of jobs, and not getting anywhere with them. As i said, 20 years ago, you would have been in a job, on the job market, working your way up. It's not your failure, it's the polticians failure. For example, 52% of year 2 medical doctors are unemployed (https://www.bma.org.uk/news-and-opinion/major-survey-shows-scale-of-doctor-unemployment-crisis). We have fully trained doctors, working Uber on minimum wage currently. It's a horrific job market. You are trying, you aren't giving up when so many others will have, your trying at every point you can, so no. You aren't a failure. You got failed, never had the oportunities that past generations had, and none of it is your fault. The things you can control, like not giving up, trying for interviews, still pushing through it all, and being geniunely willing to work hard and go on upskilling training courses to build your cv - all these things you can control, you are excelling at.
So no, you are not a failure bro.
@Cutelivejazz that's an awesome topic. And the cool thing with uni, is that there are thousands of people there from all over, people who moved from afar, people moving to the uni city for the first time, not knowing anywhere or anyone looking to make friends. There are sports clubs, societies, and all sorts of social events to make new friends. You'd be suprised by it all.
@Cutelivejazz you spoke a bit about those heavy topics the other day, and honestly, there is nothing wimpy about wanting to skip those topics. Wanting to skip topics that effect you deeply is not a case of you being wimpy, it's a case of your being smart, and looking after your own mental health, knowing how it will impact you. So there's nothing wrong with that.
And i'm really glad they're doing further maths. It's clearly a topic you love, so thats a bit of good news at least. And yeah, workload can be a nightmare. it's really important that you try and schedule things out if you can with your homework, so that you can have breaks, it's not overwhelming all at once, and it can help to prevent you falling behind a bit and having to do a marathon closer to when the work needs submitting. Could i offer you a few tips on managing large coursework workloads that i got taught.
I know that things are difficult right now, and there isn't much i can say that will make anything better, but i'll write up a list of the things tomorrow i got taught about dealing with large coursework loads, and about how to be the most productive you can be. There was a whole first year module dedicated to things like that, which might help.