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[TW] mentions of self harm and eating disorders

slovieslovie Posts: 20 Boards Initiate
edited January 3 in Sex & Relationships
good news: i have a bf!!
bad news: he self harms and has an eating disorder

i'm def lost on how to navigate this since i'm not exactly equipped to help with eating disorders. i do really love him, but the thought of him relapsing or starving himself just saddens me. i guess he's trying to recover? but i don't know; he tries, relapses, and gives up.

how can i help him? i feel like it would be weird to encourage recovery while i'm still self harming, if that makes sense. i feel like it would be too selfish to ask for him to stop, and i don't want to put him through that guilt. i really do want him to get better because i love him and worry for him
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  • slovieslovie Posts: 20 Boards Initiate
    also i don't know anything about eating disorders, so any help would be appreciated
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,614 An Original Mixlorian
    edited August 2025
    sending you hugs. there’s a eating disorder website called beat which has information abt eating disorders etc. they might be rly helpful for you.

    https://www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk/

    we’re here for you you’re not alone in this. <3
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • ameliawillsharevoiceameliawillsharevoice Posts: 25 Boards Initiate
    @slovie I really hope you can navigate that together. Love is not always the answer and I would recommend suggesting a help line to your bf? I have Sh before and it is a habit of a life time but it is breakable! I am 2 years clean and suggest outdoor activity and doing the things that make him happy for HIM and not for anyone else
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 485 Listening Ear
    edited January 1
    My advice is ask him if he is hungry if isn’t maybe trying asking him to try and eat something small if not don’t force him
  • AzzimanAzziman Discussion Boards Moderator Posts: 2,548 Boards Guru
    Hey @ameliawillsharevoice - this thread has had no replies for 5 months, so I'm going to close it now. For future reference, it's best to only comment on discussions that are recently active (within a few weeks is a good general rule) - please do check the date of the last response before responding to check whether it's still active. Thanks!
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