Hyper sexual

nem · June 12

I have hypersexuality
For SURE
I might go to
SAA?
I keep thinking about a guy I had sex with he told me he was a bit of a sex addict

Azziman · June 16

Hi @nem, thank you for sharing this with us. I can hear how this topic/situation has been on your mind. What makes you feel that you're definitely this way, and how do you feel about it? We're here to listen to you.

nem · June 16

I just know it, I’m very ashamed

nem · June 16

It’s obsessional

nem · June 17

It’s that I won’t tell anyone

nem · June 17

I have an eating disorder assessment today should I tell them.
And should I tell my GP

Sian321 · June 28

Hey @nem , how are you doing today? Thank you so much for making these posts. It can take a huge amount of courage to open up about the things we're ashamed of as shame often makes us want to pull away from other people and hide. We're here to listen without judgement.

How do you feel about the idea of seeking some support around your relationship with sex? You mentioned that it feels 'obsessional' and that sounds like it could be anxiety-inducing, with things feeling a bit outside of your control. Thank you for your trust in sharing this. The following places might be a positive place to start if you did wish to look for some further help:

For: All Ages | Website | ATSAC (the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity) is a not-for-profit organisation that provides information and support on sex addiction and compulsivity - https://shoutlink.info/ATSAC

For: Under 25's | Website | Sexual Health | Information and Resources | Support. Brook is the UK's leading sexual health and wellbeing charity for young people. Website contains information and support options for those under 25 seeking advice with sexual health and relationships. - https://shoutlink.info/brook

Is This Ok? Is an organisation that supports young people with anything you are worrying about or finding difficult covering a wide range of topics. If it is something you feel like you can't speak to anyone else about, they are there for you. They can also support you if you are worried that someone else is being badly treated or abused. They have a chatbot which can support you with advice and information 24/7. Is This Ok? use a chat-bot as an easy way of identifying the support you need. The chat-bot will be able to give you advice and information 24/7. You will then have the option to be transferred through to a trained chat advisor who will be able to listen and provide non-judgemental support. Their specialist advisers are available to chat to from 2:30pm- 9:30pm Monday- Thursday and 4pm-11pm Friday, Saturday and Sunday. There are a completely anonymous service and won't ask you for any personal information. They are a service mainly for 13-18 year olds, but if you are slightly older than this and present an issue that they can support with, they will try and help. Their website is https://www.isthisok.org.uk/

You also said you have an eating disorder and might like to get some help from your GP. Again, that sounds really positive to reach out for help. How do you feel about the idea of setting up an appointment to talk about this?

We're here for you, Nem, and thank you for your posts.

nem · June 28

I’m
Very bad

Thank u

nem · June 28

When I’m not sleeping with Anyone I feel sad and worthlezssssss

nem · June 28

Should i try sexting or send my nudes to people is that shameful??

River · June 28

@nem its totally up to you but from my perspective it’s not a good idea, when you send pictures like that to people they are out in the open and they could easily leak them if it’s the wrong person

It’s not shameful at all but it’s just about safety

Sian321 · June 28

@nem if you'd like to find out more about internet safety and sending nudes / sexting, you can have a read here on NSPCC's site: https://learning.nspcc.org.uk/online-safety/sexting-sharing-nudes-semi-nudes.

Sex / or sexual activity of any kind can sometimes be stigmatized or illicit shame which is really hard. You deserve to be able to talk about these feelings, and we're here to listen.

You said that you feel worthless right now and this feels linked to the fact that you haven't been sleeping with anyone lately. That sounds difficult, and you're doing really well to share about this. What is that feeling of being worthless like for you? What does it mean to you when you're not having sex?

nem · June 28

Ok
Just means like I’m worthless
I guess
Not useful

nem · June 28

No connection no desirable /desirabiity
Want to feel wanted I dunno

nem · June 28

Idk how to feel attractive or desirable it SUCKS

And

I only like hyper sexual men
Like really sexual

It’s so hard .

Like

I’m scared to say I want sex
Or signal that I want sex
So scared!!!!
To other people

River · June 30

Hey @nem just wanted to check in and see how your doing

nem · June 30

I’m pretty bad

nem · July 5

Should I have sex with another guy?

Keep stealing my dads money

Sian321 · July 6

@nem thank you for letting us know you're feeling bad. That sounds really hard, and we're here to listen.

Can I ask, what does feeling bad look like for you right now, and in some of the hardest moments?

You asked if you should have sex with another guy in his car, and while we can offer you emotional support around this, we can't necessarily give you a direct yes / no answer. What makes you want to have sex with him, do you think? How do you imagine you would feel if you did?

Keep stealing my dads money

Thank you for sharing this, Nem. What leads you to steal his money? Is there something specific you're hoping to use that money for?

We're here for you, and you're doing so well to talk about this.

nem · July 6

Might like it

Like meet a guy from tinder or Grindr or something
Never met anyone from Grindr but I’m bi and guys have messaged me on it
There’s a guy from tinder seemed keen to meet

nem · July 6

Mainly coffee

Just Suuuuper eating disorder
So anything to get away from that really

Sian321 · July 6

Hi @nem , it sounds like you're considering meeting up with this guy from Tinder or someone from Grindr. How do you usually help keep yourself safe when meeting up with people?

Can I ask if you're currently getting any support around your eating disorder at all?

nem · July 6

Hardly
It is tough
Very tough going
I have an appointment tomorrow. At the Belfast NHS eating disorder centre. Hope that helps.

Sian321 · July 9

@nem , how are you doing? Wanted to check in to ask how the appointment went if you did wish to share?

That's really positive that you are receiving some support. You deserve to not have to go through this alone. I'll pop some other support options below too where helpful:

https://www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk/get-information-and-support/get-help-for-myself/i-need-support-now/helplines/

https://eating-disorders.org.uk/

https://www.themix.org.uk/explore-our-topics/mental-health/treatment-for-eating-disorders/

nem · July 9

I’m okay
Ish
Today I am doing a volunteer trial shift

nem · July 13

I’m seeing a guy
He suggested picnic but I have eating problems!!!

Hyper sexual

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