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Hyper sexual

nemnem Posts: 153 Helping Hand
in Gender & Sexuality
I have hypersexuality
For SURE
I might go to
SAA?
I keep thinking about a guy I had sex with he told me he was a bit of a sex addict

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  • AzzimanAzziman Discussion Boards Moderator Posts: 2,308 Boards Champion
    Hi @nem, thank you for sharing this with us. I can hear how this topic/situation has been on your mind. What makes you feel that you're definitely this way, and how do you feel about it? We're here to listen to you.
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  • nemnem Posts: 153 Helping Hand
    I just know it, I’m very ashamed
  • nemnem Posts: 153 Helping Hand
    It’s obsessional
  • nemnem Posts: 153 Helping Hand
    It’s that I won’t tell anyone
  • nemnem Posts: 153 Helping Hand
    I have an eating disorder assessment today should I tell them.
    And should I tell my GP
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 1,899 Extreme Poster
    Hey @nem , how are you doing today? Thank you so much for making these posts. It can take a huge amount of courage to open up about the things we're ashamed of as shame often makes us want to pull away from other people and hide. We're here to listen without judgement.

    How do you feel about the idea of seeking some support around your relationship with sex? You mentioned that it feels 'obsessional' and that sounds like it could be anxiety-inducing, with things feeling a bit outside of your control. Thank you for your trust in sharing this. The following places might be a positive place to start if you did wish to look for some further help:
    For: All Ages | Website | ATSAC (the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity) is a not-for-profit organisation that provides information and support on sex addiction and compulsivity - https://shoutlink.info/ATSAC

    For: Under 25's | Website | Sexual Health | Information and Resources | Support. Brook is the UK's leading sexual health and wellbeing charity for young people. Website contains information and support options for those under 25 seeking advice with sexual health and relationships. - https://shoutlink.info/brook

    Is This Ok? Is an organisation that supports young people with anything you are worrying about or finding difficult covering a wide range of topics. If it is something you feel like you can't speak to anyone else about, they are there for you. They can also support you if you are worried that someone else is being badly treated or abused. They have a chatbot which can support you with advice and information 24/7. Is This Ok? use a chat-bot as an easy way of identifying the support you need. The chat-bot will be able to give you advice and information 24/7. You will then have the option to be transferred through to a trained chat advisor who will be able to listen and provide non-judgemental support. Their specialist advisers are available to chat to from 2:30pm- 9:30pm Monday- Thursday and 4pm-11pm Friday, Saturday and Sunday. There are a completely anonymous service and won't ask you for any personal information. They are a service mainly for 13-18 year olds, but if you are slightly older than this and present an issue that they can support with, they will try and help. Their website is https://www.isthisok.org.uk/


    You also said you have an eating disorder and might like to get some help from your GP. Again, that sounds really positive to reach out for help. How do you feel about the idea of setting up an appointment to talk about this?

    We're here for you, Nem, and thank you for your posts.
  • nemnem Posts: 153 Helping Hand
    I’m
    Very bad

    Thank u
  • nemnem Posts: 153 Helping Hand
    When I’m not sleeping with Anyone I feel sad and worthlezssssss
  • nemnem Posts: 153 Helping Hand
    Should i try sexting or send my nudes to people is that shameful??
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,621 The Mix Elder
    @nem its totally up to you but from my perspective it’s not a good idea, when you send pictures like that to people they are out in the open and they could easily leak them if it’s the wrong person

    It’s not shameful at all but it’s just about safety :)
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 1,899 Extreme Poster
    @nem if you'd like to find out more about internet safety and sending nudes / sexting, you can have a read here on NSPCC's site: https://learning.nspcc.org.uk/online-safety/sexting-sharing-nudes-semi-nudes.

    Sex / or sexual activity of any kind can sometimes be stigmatized or illicit shame which is really hard. You deserve to be able to talk about these feelings, and we're here to listen.

    You said that you feel worthless right now and this feels linked to the fact that you haven't been sleeping with anyone lately. That sounds difficult, and you're doing really well to share about this. What is that feeling of being worthless like for you? What does it mean to you when you're not having sex?
  • nemnem Posts: 153 Helping Hand
    Ok
    Just means like I’m worthless
    I guess
    Not useful
  • nemnem Posts: 153 Helping Hand
    No connection no desirable /desirabiity
    Want to feel wanted I dunno
  • nemnem Posts: 153 Helping Hand
    Idk how to feel attractive or desirable it SUCKS


    And

    I only like hyper sexual men
    Like really sexual

    It’s so hard .

    Like

    I’m scared to say I want sex
    Or signal that I want sex
    So scared!!!!
    To other people
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,621 The Mix Elder
    Hey @nem just wanted to check in and see how your doing
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • nemnem Posts: 153 Helping Hand
    I’m pretty bad
  • nemnem Posts: 153 Helping Hand
    Should I have sex with another guy in his car?


    Keep stealing my dads money
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 1,899 Extreme Poster
    @nem thank you for letting us know you're feeling bad. That sounds really hard, and we're here to listen.

    Can I ask, what does feeling bad look like for you right now, and in some of the hardest moments?

    You asked if you should have sex with another guy in his car, and while we can offer you emotional support around this, we can't necessarily give you a direct yes / no answer. What makes you want to have sex with him, do you think? How do you imagine you would feel if you did?
    Keep stealing my dads money

    Thank you for sharing this, Nem. What leads you to steal his money? Is there something specific you're hoping to use that money for?

    We're here for you, and you're doing so well to talk about this.
  • nemnem Posts: 153 Helping Hand
    Might like it

    Like meet a guy from tinder or Grindr or something
    Never met anyone from Grindr but I’m bi and guys have messaged me on it
    There’s a guy from tinder seemed keen to meet
  • nemnem Posts: 153 Helping Hand
    Mainly coffee

    Just Suuuuper eating disorder
    So anything to get away from that really
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 1,899 Extreme Poster
    Hi @nem , it sounds like you're considering meeting up with this guy from Tinder or someone from Grindr. How do you usually help keep yourself safe when meeting up with people?

    Can I ask if you're currently getting any support around your eating disorder at all?
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