Anybody want to vent or chat about anything?

Redemption · June 16

@River and @independent_ , I'm sorry to both of you and everyone if I was a bit of a burden in the session tonight.

Redemption · June 16

DonnerKebab wrote: »

@Redemption I am certain if she didn't struggle still with him, she's get rid of me if she could. She's not fast enough to get to him and stick the helmet on him during headbanging episodes, or at least nowhere near as fast as me, and get's to tired to walk long distances now because of COPD, so I am still of need somewhat, but the moment i'm not, as i say, chopping block for me.

It has been a good start to the week thankfully, and i do appreciate your support mate with it all. It's good talking about it. How have things been for you? You mentioned your mom wanted to slap you.

@DonnerKebab still sounds so tough thinking that but we're still here and everything.

Nah everything was ok, it was more in my childhood that stuff but stuff happens here and there, I try to reduce chatting on boards in case people who I know see it, we'll talk on the men's chat now.

River · June 16

I have a female problem which is kinda funny in a way but also weird 🥲

independent_ · June 16

@River here to listen if you want to talk about it, if you're comfy of course

River · June 16

@independent_ i don’t want to make people uncomfortable

independent_ · June 16

@River that's understandable, but it's your space too, you are absolutely ok to talk about it if you feel it would help you, i think lots of us will understand as well

River · June 16

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independent_ · June 16

@River no judgement here whatsoever. I was complaining about periods in chat earlier.

Hmm that is a new one on me though, I’ve never heard of that happening before. Different smells can be totally normal though, it can partly be down to the products you are using also. Certain pads, tampons etc have a smell to them as well. It’s nothing to be embarrassed about.

Happy to delete this response once you’ve read it if you’d be more comfy with that, just let me know within the hour as can’t edit after that

River · June 16

It happens everytime I get it 🥲 I mean I can think of worse smells 😂 but it’s a bit weird that it’s cake 🫠 lol

@independent_ thank you 💕 it can stay up idm

independent_ · June 16

@River whatever makes you most comfortable, I know it can be tough to talk about this stuff as it is definitely quite a sensitive thing to talk about. But it’s something we all go through and most things are normal, or at least we’ve had to deal with them at some point or another.

Oops, i missed the first paragraph of your message there! There are definitely worse smells tbh.

Lots of pads have really weird smells in and of themselves, I absolutely hate the scented ones bc there’s absolutely no need for pads to smell like flowers!

River · June 16

@independent_ nothing like smelling like a tulip 😂😂😂 or some roses

independent_ · June 16

@River ahaha, as if we all walk around smelling like roses every minute of every day. It’s the human body, it’s not gonna smell like a fresh field of flowers all the time, so long as you’re keeping as clean as you can I’m sure it’s nothing to worry about

River · June 16

I’ve always had iffy chemicals in my body so it probably is normal for me but it’s just weird and odd haha 😂 and embarrassing I sound like a lunatic

independent_ · June 16

@River nah you don’t at all. You’re right different smells can be totally normal for different people, especially around that area. Vaginas have a natural balance of bacteria that is really important for keeping them clean, if that gets even slightly out of balance it can cause all sorts of things, it can cause a funny smell or discharge that looks weird. Periods, I’ve heard, can throw off that balance a little bit, so it’s normal for your smell to change around that time of the month. But like you say it’ll be different for everyone so whats normal for you might not be normal for someone else. But if you get it every time chances are it’s just how you are and it’s completely normal for you

River · June 16

Come to think of it it wasn’t like this until I started the pill for my condition @independent_

independent_ · June 16

@River the pill is another thing that can change it, after all it’s working on your hormones and all of this is controlled by your hormones. I’ve been on the pill for so long now that I don’t know how things would be for me without it. But it can definitely alter the chemistry. You might find that it settles down when you’ve been on the pill for a while, or it might just be a new normal of sorts.

If you’re ever really worried about something like this, it’s always worth asking a doctor - chances are it’s completely normal but worth checking if it’s really worrying you

River · June 16

@independent_ ive been on it for around 6 months maybe but I forget to take it

independent_ · June 16

@River ah yeah, the first 6 months or so is when you can notice changes because your body is still getting used to it. But tbh I’ve been on it for 7 years and I’m still noticing some things that are different. Like I’ve gone from having extremely heavy periods to ones that are so light they might as well disappear altogether, but still like to cause ridiculous amounts of pain for how light they are

I set a reminder for mine, if I forget mine for more than 2 days I can get random breakthrough bleeding, again usually very light but it’s really irritating. It’s always when i forget to take them so I have a reminder set now - that could be useful for you if you find you forget them a lot

Redemption · June 16

I think I just need some sleep @DonnerKebab as I was saying my overthinking has been so bad lately I'm questioning everything like every little thing literally when it's probably just nothing I might just need a sleep

River · June 16

A Samaritan joined the chat just to say there too busy to talk to me and left 🫠👍🏻

independent_ · June 16

@River why do they do that, like surely if they take a chat they should then take that chat .. not take an extra one if they're busy? Drives me mad.

@Redemption a good sleep might be just what you need, it can help a lot. Overthinking is bad enough but it's even worse when you're overthinking and tired

I'm quite tired too tbf, I will be getting to bed shortly I think.

River · June 16

@independent_ yeah because now there queue has closed so now I’m just like welp

Redemption · June 16

independent_ wrote: »

@Redemption a good sleep might be just what you need, it can help a lot. Overthinking is bad enough but it's even worse when you're overthinking and tired

I'm quite tired too tbf, I will be getting to bed shortly I think.

Yh thanks @independent_ I just keep coming to these thoughts that people hate me or dislike like me like it is based off bad experiences but I keep jumping to these random bad conclusions when in reality it's probably nothing like if you didn't like me or anything you'd probably say something maybe politely etc. Sorry it's not you or anyone here it's just my mind atm.

independent_ · June 16

@River that’s so bad bc now you don’t get a chance to chat at all. We were always told with shout that we should only take as many chats at once as we felt comfortable with. One time i accidentally pressed the button one extra time and had an extra chat, I didn’t message that one and went straight to my supervisor to see if they were ok with me putting it back in the queue (the person wouldn’t be notified of this) because I knew I couldn’t manage it. I wouldn’t have dreamed of telling the person on the other end I was too busy because while I personally felt overwhelmed, that wasn’t the person’s fault and they deserved the best support the service could give them, hence me asking to transfer it to someone else.

@Redemption I think you’re right in thinking that generally, people make it obvious if they don’t like someone. I wouldn’t outright say it because that’s rude, but I wouldn’t be talking to someone I didn’t like, so if I’m talking to someone in my own time it’s probably safe to say I like that person. That’s just me though. But I’m fairly sure people aren’t thinking as badly of you as you think they are, I think a lot of people are so focused on themselves that they genuinely don’t have time or brain space to judge others, if that makes any sense at all.

Redemption · June 16

independent_ wrote: »

@Redemption I think you’re right in thinking that generally, people make it obvious if they don’t like someone. I wouldn’t outright say it because that’s rude, but I wouldn’t be talking to someone I didn’t like, so if I’m talking to someone in my own time it’s probably safe to say I like that person. That’s just me though. But I’m fairly sure people aren’t thinking as badly of you as you think they are, I think a lot of people are so focused on themselves that they genuinely don’t have time or brain space to judge others, if that makes any sense at all.

Thanks a lot @independent_ I think that's all true, you sleep well.

toffuna101 · June 16

goodnight everyone

Redemption · June 16

toffuna101 wrote: »

goodnight everyone

Night toffuna101

Redemption · June 16

@DonnerKebab after my overthinking and everything my phones now just pissing me off like it won't charge properly it keeps going on and off it's really pissing me off like I need it, I I need the phone for my course tomorrow, I don't know what I'm going to do coz I might be stuck with no charge but i need it for Google maps to go to the place and come on here etc. I need the phone. I keep feeling like launching it at the wall it's pissing me off that much. I just wanted to talk about that. I don't know what's wrong with it I only got it before Christmas so 6/7 months ago

DonnerKebab · June 16

@Redemption shit mate, that's a bad situation. Are you able to borrow somebodies phone perhaps or maybe you've managed to memorise the way?

eylah · June 16

a friendly hug would be nice rn 🥺

Anybody want to vent or chat about anything?

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