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  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 498 Listening Ear
    @River i know i say this a lot, but if your comfortable, i'm here to talk to about it. I know it's been a rough day from what you posted earlier about the meds, and the useless helpline and the exams. We're here to support you river because we care about you.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 3,943 Community Veteran
    I’m a complete wreck tonight but I hate how much I dump it all on you every night @DonnerKebab it’s not fair on you for me to keep doing that
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 498 Listening Ear
    @River never worry about dumping a lot on me. You've helped me a lot, i'm here to help you too friend. Please don't keep everything bottled up. It isn't good for you in the long run. I'm here to vent to and just to get things of your chest.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 3,943 Community Veteran
    I’m just so tired especially after today 😕 got the biggest dressing on because of how bad it was and I just feel like a fool and overthinking like what if security had called an ambulance 😕
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 498 Listening Ear
    @River everybody has moments of weakness. There's nothing foolish about you. What you have is a serious struggle causing SH. Feeling like a fool is normal, but that's like saying everybody in a hospital is a fool for getting sick, or for needing help.

    Security might have done. But they didn't. They just want to take care of you and get you help and resources. It must have felt scary and worrying for you at the time, and i'm sorry that it's been so hard for you. You truly deserve better. Overthinking is normal. Feeling like a fool is normal, but your not. You're just struggling and are a warrior for still pushing through.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 3,943 Community Veteran
    Just hurts that I upset Janis :( she’s never seen me this bad
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 498 Listening Ear
    edited June 11
    @River she's upset because your in a hard place right now, and are struggling because everything around you has been so shit, for so long, and things have been cruelly difficult. That's what's upset her. Not you.

    If you saw a hurt puppy, you wouldn't be angry at the puppy for being hurt. You'd be angry at the people that hurt the puppy and that the puppy is struggling because of that hurt. Sorry, terrible comparison, but the general point stands. You didn't upset her, the fact that things have been so hard that they brought you to that point is what upset her.
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 9,679 Supreme Poster
    edited June 12
    Sorry i wasn’t super helpful in chat, I haven’t been in the best headspace today, I think i need to cut down on phone and social media use again. Not here but apps like reddit, I just spend time scrolling and wasting my life. Couple of little reminders of things that happened that made me realise I do still feel exactly the same about it as I did on day 1 (some of you will know, but if you don’t it’s for the triggering thread as it’s to do with MH crisis and police treatment). It’s very much buried but I will never be rid of it as much as I think I am.

    Just a couple of messages:

    @shannon_164 I hope you don’t mind, but i hope you’re ok after tonight’s chat (no pressure to reply here, but sending hugs).

    @River massive hugs to you too, and don’t forget that this thread is open for anyone to respond to. If people feel they need a break from supporting they can always take one as I often do so please don’t feel bad for posting how you feel on this thread <3

    @DonnerKebab your support is truly incredible, thank you for being there for all of us and always having encouraging words.

    @Redemption I hope your course went well today.

    And for anyone I haven’t tagged, hugs to you too, you’re doing amazing.

    Goodnight all, I hope you’re all being kind to yourselves (it’s the law) <3
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 498 Listening Ear
    @independent_ you were a gem as usual in those support chats. And don't you forget it. And i'm sending 2 hugs back to you.

    It sounds traumatic what you went through with them, and how you feel might not change about it, and it will flare up like this from time to time probably, but how we learn to cope, that is something that can change or become more effective. Even if it's years since. You are a warrior and a half and you're doing yourself and all of us proud by still pushing onwards.

    A gentle reminder as well, punishment for not being kind to yourself include a mandatory hug and a donner kebab <3
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Community Connector Posts: 2,110 Boards Champion
    @independent_ as always, you were helpful - that’s one thing about you, you literally always have the best replies and advice in chat (and of course on boards too) and i’ve thought that from the first time i met you on here!

    my issue is just support chats in general when it comes to me joining, which is why i don’t typically join support chats. i obviously cannot go into detail on here as you’ve gotta do it properly etc but for example, last night when there was more than 1 person in chat but the final 8 mins of support time both mods only responded to the same one person even though multiple others were still sending messages…? i once sent a message saying how i was gonna leave as im feeling ignored as every single message i sent was ignored (surely not everyone can miss every single message? i understand some, but not all) and well i had a message the next day wrongly accusing me of directing hate at mods - i didn’t direct the message at anyone specifically, i just stated i felt ignored and was gonna leave - no hate directed at anyone. it just kinda hurts i guess seeing specific people alwayssss get 1-1 support from mods in every single chat, im not saying i want only mods to reply to me like that too as if thats what i wanted, id go elsewhere and seek 1-1 support as a group chat is not a place for 1-1 support, but more peer support and mods acknowledging everyone as opposed to 1-1 conversations (other than in situations were there are concerns etc), well it would be nice!
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,326 Community Veteran
    independent_ wrote: »
    Sorry i wasn’t super helpful in chat, I haven’t been in the best headspace today, I think i need to cut down on phone and social media use again. Not here but apps like reddit, I just spend time scrolling and wasting my life. Couple of little reminders of things that happened that made me realise I do still feel exactly the same about it as I did on day 1 (some of you will know, but if you don’t it’s for the triggering thread as it’s to do with MH crisis and police treatment). It’s very much buried but I will never be rid of it as much as I think I am.

    @Redemption I hope your course went well today.

    And for anyone I haven’t tagged, hugs to you too, you’re doing amazing.

    Goodnight all, I hope you’re all being kind to yourselves (it’s the law) <3

    Cheers @independent_ and I'm sure you were helpful enough, I was seeking support myself last night but I saw you helping people multiple times. I hope you're ok
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,789 Master Poster
    hey :)
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 498 Listening Ear
    @eylah Hey eylah. How are you feeling today?
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 3,943 Community Veteran
    Cleaning the house because not like my mum will do it when she can’t even do the food shop 👍🏻 but treated myself to some nails that will come today and then gonna watch a film tonight cos gonna be alone.
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 498 Listening Ear
    @River what film are you gonna be watching later?
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 3,943 Community Veteran
    @DonnerKebab not sure
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,789 Master Poster
    DonnerKebab wrote: »
    @eylah Hey eylah. How are you feeling today?

    im fed up
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 498 Listening Ear
    edited June 12
    @eylah i know it's been a hard time for you for a while, and it would make anybody feel this way. Do you want to talk about it some more?
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,789 Master Poster
    tbh idk what to say. im just feeling so shit today and im just tired of it all.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 498 Listening Ear
    @eylah i totally get it. Sometimes, it's impossible to get things across. Do you want talk about random different things, and just chit chat a bit?
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,789 Master Poster
    for sure im just feeling so tired :(.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 498 Listening Ear
    edited June 12
    @eylah Okay, so i've got a few random topics. Movies, Foods, Favourite holiday destinations, Honestly, anything you can think of to chat about. Your pick.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,789 Master Poster
    DonnerKebab wrote: »
    @eylah Okay, so i've got a few random topics. Movies, Foods, Favourite holiday destinations, Honestly, anything you can think of to chat about. Your pick.

    i had a costa today! do you like costa coffee?
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 498 Listening Ear
    edited June 12
    @eylah I only had it once, but i took a photo with a guy dressed up as a costa coffee cup once at an event called the big bang fair. I've never been a coffee guy myself.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,789 Master Poster
    DonnerKebab wrote: »
    @eylah I only had it once, but i took a photo with a guy dressed up as a costa coffee cup once at an event called the big bang fair. I've never been a coffee guy myself.

    i had a frappe
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 498 Listening Ear
    @eylah did you get anything extra in it, or just a plain frappe? No cakes or anything?
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,789 Master Poster
    DonnerKebab wrote: »
    @eylah did you get anything extra in it, or just a plain frappe? No cakes or anything?

    i got a sandwich.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 498 Listening Ear
    @eylah Nice. Which one did you get? I usually go to greggs and get a tandoori baguette and a coke zero.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 3,943 Community Veteran
    Really dizzy 🫠
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,789 Master Poster
    DonnerKebab wrote: »
    @eylah Nice. Which one did you get? I usually go to greggs and get a tandoori baguette and a coke zero.

    just a blt bc i was feeling faint
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
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