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Just need some help
Marst
Posts: 1 Just got here
Hi I really hope I’m not bothering anyone and I feel a bit silly commenting this but I really just need to talk about it. For a while I’ve had this feeling of anxiety and just a feeling like nothings going to get better. I’m constantly scared to do anything whether that be go to order food or even just trying to put my shoes on when I feel like everybody is watching and judging me. I constantly feel like all my friends are talking behind my back and don’t like me when I’m sure this isn’t the case. My parents argue a lot and are discussing moving into my grans home who has recently passed away and I’ve spoke to them about my concerns with this but they don’t want to listen to me. My parents are in no way at all bad parents but I just don’t think they know the level of support I need. I’m attending a therapy session as I have been having suicidal thoughts and I’m hoping it can go away. I could’ve went into much further detail but I’ve said the bare minimum so I don’t have to waste any bodies time. Thank you
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I’m not sure what to say but as someone who struggles with social anxiety, I really feel you. You’ve got this. Take baby steps and do little things that feel slightly uncomfortable but possible. Everything will be ok, people don’t notice the little things you’re doing as much as you think they do, and then hopefully over time you’ll learn that it’s safe to do things in front of people.
It sounds like these feelings of anxiety are weighing a lot on your mind, and I can hear how difficult this has been for you, especially with other events such as arguments at home. It's entirely fair to need more support, and I'm glad to hear that you've taken the step to speak to your parents and attend a therapy session to talk about your feelings. You're taking good steps, keep taking things one at a time. This didn't happen in a day, so it'll take some time to work through the feelings, but hopefully you'll see steady improvements in aspects of your life.
Of course, please do let us know how you're getting on as you go through this journey. We're here to support you and listen to you!
I can empathise with you about how hard it is to deal with social anxiety and can see how hard you're finding things. Things take time to get better which feels really frustrating, but I'm proud of you for attending your therapy sessions and being open on here, and it's completely okay for you to need more support! We're here for you if you wanted to talk about your feelings further - you're not bothering anyone I promise! How are you doing today?
thank you so much for opening up and sharing this, even just saying what you did takes a lot of courage. you’re not bothering anyone, and you’re definitely not silly for needing to talk about it. what you’re feeling is heavy, and you deserve to be heard and supported!
that constant anxiety and fear of being judged, like even small things feel overwhelming, i totally get how that can make everyday life feel like too much. you’re not imagining it or being dramatic, it’s your mind trying to cope with too much all at once, and when it feels like even your safe spaces (like family or friends) aren’t fully there in the way you need, it makes everything feel so much more isolating.
it sounds like you’ve been carrying all of this largely on your own for a while. i’m really glad to hear you’re going to therapy - how is therapy going for you? that step alone shows how strong and self-aware you are, even in the middle of all this pain. you don’t have to go through this alone, and you don’t have to keep minimising your pain to make space for others. you and what you’re going through matters so much!
you mentioned suicidal thoughts too - this world is a much better place with you in it - but in case you need, i’m going to pop other options of support here too!
nhs 111 - england / scotland / wales (option 2 for mental health)
phone first - northern ireland (8am-6pm monday-friday; the number will vary depending on the health & social care trust area that you live in)
out of hours - northern ireland (6pm-7:30am monday-friday, 24/7 weekends; the number will vary depending on the health & social care trust area that you live in)
999 - england / scotland / wales / northern ireland
uk helplines - some of these are specific to england / scotland / wales / northern ireland & also depend on age too:
childline (24/7) - call 08001111
shout (24/7) - text ‘shout’ to 85258
hopeline (24/7) - text 88247
samaritans (24/7) - call 116123
lifeline (24/7) - call 08088088000
papyrus (24/7) - call 08000684141
inspire wellbeing (24/7) - call 08081890036
community advice and listening line (24/7) - call 0800132737
knus (24/7) - whatsapp 07700165687
mind (9am-6pm) - call 03001233393
rethink mental illness (9:30am-4pm) - call 03005000927
kooth (12pm-10pm) - webchat on website
saneline (4pm-10pm) - call 03003047000
calm (5pm-12am) - call 0800585858
suicide prevention uk (6pm-12am) - call 08005870800
kelly’s heroes (6pm-11pm) - webchat on website
sos (8pm-12am) - call 08001151505
we are all here for you