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@DonnerKebab I appreciate it thanks and no bro you aren't. We're a non judgemental space here, as long as you're all good now then it's cool, you've had some tough experiences.
@Redemption hope your course goes well tomorrow. And I know you were both interested so I hope for you and @DonnerKebab that the mens chat went well and yous both felt able to open up a bit.
Thanks @independent_ , it went pretty well , a bit quiet as I know a lot of members here are female
@eylah we’re here to chat if you need to get anything off your chest. Is there anything on your mind that’s stopping you sleeping? I know sometimes my brain is racing with all sorts and I can’t sleep because of that.
I relate, I hope you end up getting some sleep
@independent_ I agree, I just hope it wasn't like excluding you girls or other genders.
Please don’t feel guilty @DonnerKebab any support we can get is really valuable, but that doesn’t mean every single chat has to be open to every single person. That space is there, so you’re as well making use of it.
@DonnerKebab yh that doesn’t really sound too bad just avoiding and you learnt which some people unfortunately don't. Avoiding is similar to me like I might just not go to the football again like I dont like certain people like going in too much, the guy didn't show any remorse or anything, I think he was injuring people and laughing too. I might end up kicking off if something happens like someone already did, they had a short temper anyway it seems but I think that was reasonable, a guy went in 3 times standing on his foot so the guy got a bit mad. I think 3 times is enough plus hes been doing it to other players too.
Cool, I should hopefully see you in the general chat tomorrow @independent_ unless you're in circle? I think football is meant to be on but I'm not going to that , I don't think my safety is garanteed and I'd rather seek support tbh, like if I had a job or work related course I'd obviously choose that but little football match where I could get fouled and don't want to go anyway yh I'm definitely staying here for that.
@DonnerKebab I did a bit, I hope all the female members understand.
@Redemption definitely a bit of a situation then. You want to avoid staying if there's nothing being done about the aggressive plays. Should definitely be a yellow or red card. And the fact that he's laughed after is just poor sportsmanship and would provoke anybody into lashing out.
And yeah, all it took was for one to show me basic kindness and compassion, and like that, i stopped being avoidant, thinking they were all going to hurt me somehow if given the chance. Always been grateful. Anyway, i'm signed up to therapy and am on the waiting list, so i'm gonna speak a lot about it all there. A lot of childhood trauma to go over.
I’m not in circle, I always forget to sign up unless something really bad is happening, which I guess is a good thing - means I’m just plodding along as usual, and best to leave those spaces for people who really need them. Sometimes I really need one, but I don’t right now so I’d rather people who really need to talk get that space and I can wait for ordinary SC.
Ahaha, it sure is bed o’clock for me soon @DonnerKebab, but midnight gang seems to be 11pm gang tonight, so I’m not missing that!
@River who is?
@River whats happened? I don’t want to assume - who is shouting at you?
@independent_ I don't really fully enjoy it and don't feel like my safety is garanteed. I only started to tag along and a bit of exercise. I find it boring, I not really truly been into football I think some guys common intrests are cars or football and mines always been cars. There will be others but I won't be joining, I might do another exercise like buy a bike or something.
I think everyone is ok to join but I try to join not every week to give others a space to chat. I think I do need a space but yh support chats on and other spaces like here on boards is 24/7.
I will be getting in bed shortly, but this thread is here through night if you need to post anything
We're gonna be here for you regardless of what happens, even if only online. Know that we're in your corner, and your not alone through it. You did well, and we're all proud of you.
I hear you on that, but it varies very much on support needs - if someone needs that support every week then that’s what the space is for and it’s ok to use it. Excluding really difficult times (and circle has been the place I go in those times) I don’t feel I need it every week.