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Summerjune15
Posts: 151 Helping Hand
I miss her but I hate her I’ve fallen out with a friend since my FND she changed and was messaging things like “at least you didn’t have a seizure and fall over” and “you’ll have to just get used to it” she hated me for being in my wheelchair and bunch of other comments but there was one that really got to me I told her about my diagnosis letter and she replied that’s odd you have FND too and I said not really because others in our college have it the head told me and she went I really doubt it and I lost it and messaged her something along the lines of I don’t think the head would lie and I certainly wouldn’t especially how FND has ruined my left and then blocked her I told my mum and she understood why I was upset and agreed with me that it was a stupid thing to say and she said maybe she didn’t mean it in the way I was thinking which most definitely could be the case because I’m like that sometimes I take things the wrong way and get upset over it so I unblocked her and messaged her explaining how she made me feel and that I’m sorry if I got it wrong that was about 2 months ago and still no reply it doesn’t bother me we not friends anymore it’s bothering me that she thinks I’m faking all of this and it hurts because FND has ruined my life and completely broke me and I lost a year of friendship i am awful at making friends and keeping them anyway because of my speaking I really do want to make friend but I just can’t speak to people I don’t know or feel safe around not even a simple sentence like hi how are you I wish I was normal.
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Your friends behaviour is out of order and so so wrong on so many levels. She sounds like an awful friend for not looking after you and jumping to imply that you lied and faking it is so insensitive of them.
Though I don’t know you in, I do know from your threads and chats how much it effects you and I do not believe one minute that someone is capable of making something like that up.
I know it’s hard when friendships break but your so much better off without her, she’s not been a good friend at all 💕 you deserve better
We will always believe everything you say and we will always be here to care when you need it 💕
There isn't much you can do to change that person's mind, and to be honest, you don't need to any more. It's your lived experience, and there are people who will believe you and support you. It's better to spend your effort looking after yourself and those who support you in this case.
I can hear how you find making and keeping friends difficult, and it makes sense that losing friendships might feel more acutely painful knowing that experience. You're doing the best that you can, and I hope that you find people who will treat you well as a good friend should. We're here to listen to you and support you through this too!