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My loss of some financial assistance has impacted me

Creativeboy23Creativeboy23 Posts: 326 The Mix Regular
in Health & Wellbeing


Hello.

I am no longer receiving financial assistance and have to appeal for it again. I have been having thoughts that my support workers and others focussed on moving forward to get it back without acknowledging the impact. My other support worker asked me if I mentioned any details where I have been at my highest. This triggered thoughts that my main support worker and my family were telling me that I need to be more thorough in expressing where I have been at my lowest. The question about my performance made me feel victim blamed because it is like the system bears no responsibility.

I have been thinking that my former friends have wrongly accused me of being unkind due to a disagreement over a comment. I have been hoping they will realise how I must be upset.

I have tried to think through my situations logically, considering different angles and challenging my thoughts and reminded myself of what I am doing well.

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  • AzzimanAzziman Discussion Boards Moderator Posts: 2,265 Boards Champion
    Hi @Creativeboy23, thank you for sharing this experience with us. I can hear how there are quite a few things on your mind at the moment. It sounds like the question from your support worker made you feel like you need to express yourself more thoroughly. How do you feel about that interaction after a couple of days? And that the question about your performance made you feel blamed as victim, which I can imagine is frustrating. How did you feel about the interaction, and the system more generally?

    You mentioned that your former friends may have wrongly accused you of being unkind. It's not nice to be accused of something that's not true! What makes you think that this might have happened? It's nice to hear that you remind yourself of what you're doing well. Could you share with us what things you do well that you like to remind yourself of? We're here to listen to you.
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  • Creativeboy23Creativeboy23 Posts: 326 The Mix Regular
    edited May 5




    Hello @Azziman,

    Yes. The interaction made me feel like I was responsible for losing a benefit when I am not to blame but so far it does not seem to be affecting me. It upsets me that most of the system have not thought about the impact of claimants losing some of their benefits on their living from making cuts. It is not fair to be in receipt of a benefit and then lose it and have to appeal multiple times. It would be nice if claimants just received the benefits they are entitled to.

    I know. It has been painful for me. I expressed how a comment one of my former friends made impacted me and my other former friend said that I did not treat her right and was telling me about her intention behind the remark. Comments can upset people regardless of the intent. They did not acknowledge how the remark made me feel.

    I often remind myself that I have done well to balance acknowledging my feelings with applying logic when I am under the influence of my feelings. I have been proactive in taking steps to try to appeal for my benefits.

    Kindest regards,

    Daniel.



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