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Worried I’m gonna lose my oldest brother
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that sounds really tough, and i’m so sorry you’re going through this. family conflicts, especially ones that last this long, can feel overwhelming and exhausting. it’s so clear that you love your brother and just want things to go back to how they were, and it’s heartbreaking that your dad’s unwillingness to move forward is making that harder.
i know it’s easier said than done, but try not to carry all of this on your own. you can’t control how your dad or your brother react, but you can control how you approach your relationship with your brother. maybe reaching out to him directly, without the weight of the rest of the family’s feelings involved, could help keep that connection alive?
you don’t have to go through this alone, we’re here for you, always
I wonder whether your Dad has been open to conversation at all? How aware is he about how all of this is affecting you?
And I wonder whether you still have any channels of communication with your oldest brother right now?
We're here for you as you navigate this.
It sounds like your older brother means a lot to you, and it can be so tough when families are in conflict. That can be so stressful and anxiety-inducing.
We're here for you to listen, and to be by your side
You’re not alone in this. It's natural to feel like you're stuck in the middle, especially when you love both your brother and your dad. Do you feel like there’s any way to talk to either of them about how much this is hurting you? Sometimes opening up about how you’re feeling can give them a little perspective, even if it doesn't solve everything right away.
And if the emotions are becoming too much to bear, it could help to give yourself some space to breathe and process everything in smaller moments when you're not feeling so overwhelmed. It might also help to talk to someone outside the family, like a friend or therapist, to help you work through how you're feeling.