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Also, I'd thought I'd share a bit of advice in a way from being a previous member of a charity in my town which supported neurodiverse adults which is now closed. Their CEO too left and a new CEO stepped in. Things started going down hill from there and previously a while ago too. The reason why the charity failed was because of a lack of communication and a lack of passion for the people attending the place. Hence, why it closed its door for good. Now your probably wondering why I am talking about a charity in my area and what's this got to do with this post. But let me tell you, I see the same pattern that happened with that charity with this one and I fear the same thing is going to happen eventually because of a poor lack of communication and passion for young people. So if you want to continue doing this then be prepared for a rocky road ahead thats all in saying. This is a young people's site and it should continue to help us by actually listening to us and making sure our voices are heard. Now I'm not asking for anything fancy from you buy what I am asking is that we are heard more and that users have more of a say so in some decisions on the boards especially mods as we are the ones using this service the most. Plus some people may not also have any ID either or passports etc so I don't know how the ID aspect would work for that. Plus I agree with you @independent_ on the whole AI analysing the age as it has been proven to be quite faulty and has analysed people wrongly especially when it comes to age. Also, anyone could technically upload a picture of someone else and use that, it doesn't stop people from catfishing, the same with the whole geofencing thing people can tick the yes box quite easily.
Overall, I fear for what the future of the mix will be (that's if there is a future for it as dark as that sounds I wouldent be suprised). However, us users need to continue to stick together and fight against this. Never stop amplifying your voices and this goes out to the community staff and mods here too as well because I know you have worked so hard.
I wonder what things we've all agreed to in the very necessary consent form for the merger...
I’m not trying to dig here. I have utmost respect for the community team and my messages aren’t for you. I’m sorry you’re getting the brunt of this because you’re the middle man. My annoyance here is with the people who have to answer our q’s. I don’t understand why we’re being left waiting. What is more important than putting the communities mind at ease. Like, are they having to research their replies ? Surely they should know this information from the top of their heads and can pass it onto you to tell us.. they could put our minds at rest within 5 short minutes. Can they not spare that, no?
Theres some extremely valid questions on both threads.
Edit: It was this very thread! Duh. I said similar to this on saturday.
It’s shocking matey this new management.. and the longer they’re leaving us stewing, the more tense were getting & overall it’s making the community teams job harder
The communication has been terrible, there’s absolutely 0 valid reason why we should have to wait 2 weeks + for answers on our questions regarding massive community changes which directly impact us.
Did they think we wouldn't have questions or something ? Lol.
I agree, it’s info they should already have to hand. Clearly they don’t😂
Maybe I'm looking at it through rose tinted glasses and I know I keep referring to the mix of old, so excuse that, but I was having a look at an old thread recently where lots of questions were being asked and discussion had. The thread was quite heated in the end, but people certainly didn't have to wait this long for answers. I wouldn't even say this is a heated discussion between us members, but it is growing and eventually it's gonna become pages and pages of thoughts which need answers. So like you say making the job of the community team at least 10 times harder than it needs to be.
@independent_
You’re right.. because even the logo change had a few of us feeling miffed. It’s a tiny change but on top of these big changes that haven’t been properly discussed, it does feel big. For a lot of us, we made the mix our home, and it feels like SHOUT is trampling all over that for their own gain… with little to no thought about those of us who love / loved this place.
I remember changes happening before and V being ready and open for conversation. It felt safe and transparent. Why can’t we have that anymore?
I really really hope future investors are seeing this, like hearing it straight from the service users voices
With how things are going, I really cannot see the mix lasting another year. The decline since the merger has been rapid.
I’m kinda gutted Chris handed The Mix over to people who have let it get this poor. It’s sad like, it used to help so many people out of dark places 💔
FWIW, this is the thread I am on about: https://community.themix.org.uk/discussion/3597167/the-importance-of-being-genuine/p3
It was the big issue at the time and the elephant in the room, and at the time many didn’t feel it was being dealt with perfectly, but nothing is perfect. But it’s an example of how communication used to be. If anyone feels they don’t want this linked for whatever reason (perhaps one of your own posts)) please let me know. But it does feel important.
Edit: looking again, the first 2 responses on page 1 illustrate my point perfectly.
I thought it was interesting you said this @JJLemon18 . I always feel a bit freaked about small prints.
I tried to read some about SHOUTS policies and found a really insightful article, if any of you are interested. I’ll link it here -
https://www.theguardian.com/society/2022/feb/19/mental-health-helpline-funded-by-royals-shared-users-conversations
So it looks like SHOUT and MHI have a history of being absolutely brutal at communicating changes, especially when it comes to what they’re doing behind the scenes with our data.
I quoted this bit here because I find it kinda funny 😅😂
The flipping love AI😂 it’s actually kinda scary.
TL;DR
Shout guaranteed that they would NEVER share individual conversations
THEN
Shout secretly 🥷 deleted their policy and decided to hand over over 10 million FULL conversations from vulnerable users to researchers / AI training
When they were called out for being unethical they basically said
Well actually … 🤓☝🏻…. Users technically agreed via our t&c’s
…….
There’s also a whole section on there about how MHI is linked with a ‘for profit’ organisation. It makes for an interesting read.
Anyway, there’s a great bit in the article which says
They released their own statement there so you can form your own opinions
I definitely feel like Shout have been more dominating and taking control of the mix changing it for their own personal gain in a way. So your definitely right with that because I have noticed that a lot recently and its worrying. The worst part is how atrocious the actual communication is because we haven't been given straight proper answers or an apology at all which is shocking
i have just come back to this website today and im reading all of this and im absolutely shocked. why do i have to insert my id or take a picture of myself? this is not good... i look like a 12 year old...
Thank you for all your questions regarding Age Verification and for being patient whilst we put these answers together for you. Here are some answers which we hope will ease any worries you may have:
What platform are we using for Age Verification?
The platform we're using for Age Verification is called Yoti, which is a digital identifying platform that makes it safer for people to prove who they are. Yoti ID is also approved by the UK Government as a valid proof of identity. To find out more about Yoti you can click here
Why is this happening? Do we legally have to do this?
We're implementing this to make The Mix safer and to follow new laws like the Online Safety Act 2023. The rules say we have to check the ages of those using spaces designed for young people. This also helps keep the Community a safe place by making sure everyone here is the right age.
Other laws like GDPR (data protection rules) also means we have to be extra careful with privacy and safety.
Are other places doing this, or just The Mix?
We’re one of the first to introduce this, but we won’t be the only ones. Lots of youth-focused services and websites will need to bring in similar checks soon to follow the same laws. Big platforms (like social media and gaming sites) already use Yoti for age checks.
How does Age Verification work?
If you’re already a Discussion Boards user, this won’t affect you just yet! But if you’re new and signing up, you’ll need to verify your age in one of two ways:
📌 Important: No one at The Mix will ever see your photo or ID. Yoti’s system only sends us an age estimate.
What happens to my data? Will my photo be stored?
Nope! Your selfie or ID is deleted right away after your age is checked. Nothing is saved, shared, or used for anything else. The Mix will only get a confirmation of your age—nothing more.
Yoti is super secure and follows all the big data protection rules (like GDPR), so your info stays safe.
What if someone tries to fake their age or catfish?
Yoti has built-in tech to spot fake or stolen photos. If someone tries to upload an edited image or someone else’s pic, the system won’t accept it. And if they use ID, only real, official documents will work. This makes it really hard for someone to lie about their age or pretend to be someone they’re not.
What if the system gets my age wrong?
Yoti’s AI is really accurate, but if it makes a mistake, don’t panic! There will be a way to prove your age with an ID instead. If needed, The Mix can help sort things out.
What if I don’t have an ID, or I have accessibility needs?
We know not everyone has easy access to ID, and some people might struggle with the process. We’re looking at ways to make it as simple and fair as possible, including:
✅ Facial age estimation (no ID needed!)
✅ Screen reader compatibility for visually impaired users
✅ Support from The Mix team if you’re struggling with verification
If you have any concerns, just let us know, and we’ll do our best to help! We're not expecting to implement this until April/May time, and once we have a date we'll let you know.
i still do however think that this is very much so going to create new barriers for many people in terms of accessing services, and understandably so. i know if i was met with this requirement, i wouldn’t sign up and im sure many people would be the same.
just a question around this aspect, let’s say susie is 28 but she has a sister who is only 15, what is there to stop susie from getting her sister to take the selfie or uploading her sisters id as it wouldn’t then be a fake id nor would it be an image of someone of google etc.
i’m just genuinely curious about that part as it doesn’t at all make it impossible for someone to pretend to be someone they are not really?
also, this part too
just out of curiosity, why are current members excluded from this? what’s to say that there aren’t members on here that are currently faking their age to be able to access the service, as that is very much a possibility.
i personally think it seems a bit silly how it will only apply to new members and not current members - surely it should apply to everybody or nobody…?
thanks
@Amy22 @independent_ @Faolan @Siena @JJLemon18 @Rose113 @Ems222 @AnonymousToe @TheNightmare @Dancer
Thank you for the answers, I appreciate that and it clears some stuff up, but my opinion still stands unfortunately.
It’s weird to say that it was easier to reach out last year than it is this year. Surely that’s a step back in digital mental health, no? Sure, look at how much there is ti do to reach out now to a silly little forum. Make an account, wait to be approved, send your face to AI and hope you get accepted, wait to be approved again, confirm where in the world you’re at .. and then if that hasn’t scared you off.. finally you can reach out to this dying community… and you might *might* get a reply.
Either way. Maybe it’s not the worst news ever. I’ve had a few creeps in my dms over the last couple of years who I suspect are probs too old to be using this website so this would weed out those.
I’ll apologise if I’m wrong but I’m gonna bet that childline, kooth, whatever else there is and social media websites won’t be bringing this into play. 😆 like it’s goofy af
Also agree that it should be something everyone does though and not just new users.
Just hopping in to clear some things up about other services using Yoti
So in terms of other platforms using this one example is Meta who have started introducing Teen Accounts on Instagram for users under the age of 18. They also use Yoti to check their users' ages and they initially applied it to new users before gradually implementing it for existing teen accounts. You can find out more about this on Instagram's website here and on Yoti's website here
Supermarkets (such as Asda and Morrisons) have also been conducting trials to verify customer's ages at self-checkouts (click here for more info), and for those who have a Yoti Digital ID, you can use it at various convenience shops, post office branches and payzone stores as a form of ID. For more information on this and to check your local area click here
In terms of services similar to ourselves, Childline use Yoti for their Report Remove service which helps those under 18 in the UK to confidentially report sexual images and videos of themselves and remove them from the internet. Individuals can confirm their identity using Yoti so that Childline have more legal powers to remove images in as many places as possible.
In short, other places are using Yoti and whilst we might be one of the first youth-focused services bringing this in, others will need to bring in similar checks to follow the laws (Online Safety Act 2023 and GDPR).
Please do keep asking questions and letting us know your thoughts. We're listening and we will get back to you
the part that really doesn’t make sense though i guess is why this will only apply to new members? surely it should be all of us, current or new, or none of us?
what is there to say there aren’t people on here currently that are faking their age? they will continue to get away with it as this won’t apply to them since they aren’t a new member therefore it defeats the purpose in a way?
if legislation applies to everyone, which is does, i don’t understand how current members aren’t going to have to undergo the same process as what someone only joining will have to.
thank you
So it's a pretty complex process and we're going to be rolling it out in stages. The first stage will be for new applicants, and during this stage we'll also be testing the set-up.
The plan is to roll it out to all users, because you folks are right, it should be all Discussion Board users. However, as we'll be actively testing to make sure it's all working as expected we're going to be doing it in stages. When we have more information around the dates we plan to do this we'll be sure to let you all know!
It does feel like a barrier to mental health support, again the government not thinking things through
We'll also be able to test this during stage one when we first roll it out to test if new users' experience any issues if they look younger than they actually are
Do you know what types of ID they accept @Katie? Is it just passport, driving license etc or do they accept PASS cards?