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Am I bi or straight?

bignosegirly0bignosegirly0 Posts: 367 Listening Ear
in Sex & Relationships
I’m sexually and romantically attracted to men.

I used to be both sexually and romantically attracted to women.

But now, I don’t feel any romantic attraction towards women, only sexual attraction.

I’ve considered being in a relationship with women, but I don’t think I’d be as satisfied because I have a yearning for male approval through a relationship, in order to fix my self esteem issues.

I don’t want to end up like those women who say “OMG I’d totally kiss a girl, but would never date them 😜.”

Please be brutally honest. Am I just straight?

Comments

  • bignosegirly0bignosegirly0 Posts: 367 Listening Ear
    Update: I’m suddenly having romantic fantasies about dating women again. Why the fuck does my sexuality keep changing 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 9,948 Supreme Poster
    Sexuality isn’t a fixed thing, it can change over time and there’s absolutely no shame in that.

    I consider myself to be bisexual, I am a woman, and have been in a relationship with a man for a very long time. I understand the feeling that the sexual attraction is more than the romantic attraction, but that is maybe because I’ve never had a chance to explore those feelings (I’m early 20s).

    But that’s just my experience and how you feel is totally valid. There’s certainly no rush to put a label on things if you ever do that at all.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • nemnem Posts: 402 Listening Ear
    Yeah I’m a bit like this I think I’m jus bi being bi is so weird lol if I’m dating men I feel like I’m not allowed in queer spaces it’s weird feels like I should hide it if I’m seeing a man cus they’ll think I’m straight / hate straight men lol
  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Discussion Boards Moderator Posts: 5,456 Part of The Furniture
    Your identity is valid, regardless of who you are dating @nem. It is a part of you and more about how you feel, rather than how it is perceived on the outside. If you want to be in queer spaces, you should be allowed, accepted and embraced in queer spaces <3
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