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  • stardust444stardust444 Posts: 116 The Mix Convert
    @shannonxg_ i don’t think this sounds silly at all, i think how you’re feeling is completely justified!! if you did still want advice, i think you shouldn’t be pressured to give him the money as he hasn’t always treated well and you deserve someone who does ❤️

    i completely understand if you want to help him because you seem like a very kind person but I promise it would be justified if you don’t feel comfortable giving him the money. trust your gut
  • AzzimanAzziman Discussion Boards Moderator Posts: 2,540 Boards Guru
    Hey @shannonxg_, I can understand how this feels confusing. It's important to know where we stand with people, and whether we can trust them. Being blocked intermittently, being left on read for a long time, and getting mixed messages, all sound like you're not being treated with respect and that he's not being clear with you as to where you stand. If a friend told you that they were being treated this way by someone, what would you suggest that they do here? You deserve to be treated with respect, and know where you stand with your friends!

    I'd echo what @stardust444 says about borrowing money. It's nice to know that you're looking to help people and be kind! I'd just warn you that lending money is something to be cautious about. You'd perhaps lend money to a good friend who you trust (you only have so much money to spare after all!), but I'd be careful about lending money to someone who's asking you for money after not talking properly for a year. Ultimately it's your decision as to what to do though. What do you think you want to do in this situation? We're here to support you <3
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  • Alwayshope2dayAlwayshope2day Posts: 29 Boards Initiate
    @shannonxg, I've dealt with similar behaviour from a guy who I thought was my friend. I think the best perspective I've had on this is "he didn't know how to handle it." These types of behavior reflect immaturity in relationships, and they definitely don't reflect kindness. Someone said to me, "Be thankful you found out what he is truly like."

    With money, it is good to keep a generous heart as you have <3. But money is also something I'd say is to be trusted with the trustworthy. This guy hasn't shown he has a character of maturity or kindness. I know I wouldn't want my money to go to someone who shows those characteristics. Also, asking for money when he hasn't treated you well! You deserve to be respected. And I'd say not giving your money away to someone who has treated you like this, is in in keeping with self-respect and self-love.

    It is your choice, but don't be pressured or guilt-tripped into it. If you make that choice, it should be yours to make.

    We're here if you want to think things through :)
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