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Why do I bother

Past UserPast User Posts: 0 Just got here
edited February 2023 in Sex & Relationships
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Post edited by Laura_tigger82 on

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  • ILoveDinosILoveDinos Posts: 10 Settling in
    I’m not sure what you’re going through but I promise you’re loved by someone. My friend recently passed and my life is incomplete without her. Although I don’t know you, you seem lovely from looking at different posts. I hope you’re ok
  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Discussion Boards Moderator Posts: 5,456 Part of The Furniture
    edited September 2024
    You have been really brave in sharing this with us @Past User. I can really hear how you are finding things are going wrong, in one way or another, with other people at the moment.

    It sounds like you are really trying though and that is more than anyone can ask from you (including yourself!). I hope you are able to recognise your strength in trying, even if it doesn't always work out, or get recognised by others.

    I have moved your thread to sex and relationships, just because it is about interactions with other people. I am hoping this means more people can see your thread and respond to it, just as you deserve.

    Sending you hugs <3
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  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Discussion Boards Moderator Posts: 5,456 Part of The Furniture
    edited February 2023
    You have provided some lovely support here @ILoveDinos. Thank you for that, the support you provide for each other is invaluable and is what makes The Mix's community the wonderful space it is.

    I do also want to acknowledge the difficult time it sounds like you are having at the moment though. Bereavement is never easy and I can hear how your life feels incomplete.

    Please remember you are always more than welcome to create your own thread and receive support from the community <3
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  • ILoveDinosILoveDinos Posts: 10 Settling in
    edited September 2024
    @Laura_tigger82 Thank you your kind words. I feel very appreciated and accepted since joining this community. I just wanted @Past User to know that I’m sure they are also appreciated and loved by many people - probably even by some in this community and that I’m always here if they need to chat☺️
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  • MaisyMaisy Posts: 701 Part of The Mix Family
    One thing I've learned with helping others is that we can't please everyone all of the time. There will be some people, perhaps for reasons of their own such as previous trauma, triggers, mental health etc., who won't find what you, or others, say to be helpful. Other times it may be that what you are saying is spot on but they aren't in a place to hear it. Or, since this is the internet, it might not be that what you are saying is unhelpful, but more a case of misunderstanding. We can't tell the tone or intention behind what someone is saying online and it's very easy to take things the wrong way when perhaps the other person didn't mean for it to be taken in that way at all.

    It may be that you might want to learn more about what someone is going through and actively listening to them before trying to continue helping. Or you might feel that you can't help that particular person at this point in time...and that's completely okay too! The other thing to realise is that people need to help themselves too. And if that doesn't happen, no amount of help from you or others is going to help them.

    Whatever is going on, it's worth sticking around. At the very least you'll get support from others here <3
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