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Salix_alba_2019Salix_alba_2019 Posts: 1,269 Wise Owl
edited May 2020 in Sex & Relationships
Going to uni has allowed me to become my own person but it's also made me see how toxic home can be. I don't want to be apart of it. I'm 24 and I'm tired of it. I'm aware that she didn't have a very good bringing and experienced a lot of losses growing but at the same time, I can't keep sacrificing myself to keep her happy. I don't think she wants us to fly the nest. She doesn't want any of my adult siblings to move out unless we're married...yeah that's not going to happen. My oldest sibling moved out and she's flourishing, now completing a PhD. I swear sometimes it feels like my mother doesn't want to raise independent and strong women, instead she wants housewives and I'm TIRED of it. 

At this point, I do not care if she doesn't like the fact that I'm dating a non Christian who is not the same race as me and I will never allow her to make me feel ashamed of it. I worried so much about telling my mum when really, I shouldn't have, either way, it it my decision and if she has a problem, it's not mine to carry. 

I will not allow her to play top trumps with us (her children)
I will not sacrifice my happiness to please her
AidanMikeTee AHan93

Comments

  • AidanAidan Clever idiot Posts: 2,978 Boards Guru
    edited May 2020
    I know it's a rant so maybe you weren't looking for a response, but it looks like from an outside perspective that you're strong and independent and not up for playing yer mam's games and that you know what you are doing with yourself without caring about anybody else's opinions. I wasn't sure whether to hugs or agree!

    The top trumps metaphor was a good one, at least I hope it's a metaphor because real top trumps is lit :joy:

    Keep doing whatever you want to do and you'll make the people who really care about you happy <3
    but idk tho
    Salix_alba_2019Mike
  • Salix_alba_2019Salix_alba_2019 Posts: 1,269 Wise Owl
    N'awwwww thank you lovely @Aidan 😊
  • coc0maccoc0mac Posts: 833 Part of The Mix Family
    Hi @Salix_alba_2019

    I just wanted to second what @Aiden has said. You really shine through as a strong and independent person, so that's really something to be proud of :smile: And I'm pleased you made this ranting post, as I do think having a little rant can be a great way to off-load and feel a little better! Good job :heart:
    Salix_alba_2019
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