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SiobhanSiobhan Posts: 14,465 Born on Earth, Raised by The Mix
edited January 2020 in Health & Wellbeing
Ive had a bad few days of self harming. I think because of dates of abuse. I dont normally do it in places you can see but been doing it in place can see just cause it feels like first place i think of when i want to and easiest place. Now im feeling really really bad because it will scar and i really regret it but want to keep doing it but without it scaring and i feel really bad and now i just hate my body even more and i know my sister would be disgust if she saw it when it heals and feel judged and i feel so so bad. Mostly from my family seeing it. Please helpp. Like tell me it doesnt matter or something lol. I dont have many scars in obvious places cause im scared of being jduged but ive had a shit few weeks/ days of self harming and i don’t know wht to do now. I cant go back in time obviiusly and worse part is i just feel like doing it again. Please help me i dont want to have to cover my body my whole life. And i dont want people to see it and just prejudge me. :'(:'(:'( 
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  • StephanieStephanie Moderator Posts: 953 Part of The Mix Family
    Hey Shaunie,

    It sounds like you've got a lot going on at the minute, sending hugs. :heart:

    How long have you been self-harming for? Do you have any distraction techniques that have helped you?

    You are not alone in this, we are all here for you :smile::heart:

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  • ElizabethElizabeth Posts: 93 Budding Regular
    Hey Shaunie,

    hope you are ok? I’m not sure if this will be any help, but I use the app ‘calm harm’ it gives you other things to help be distracted until the feeling goes. Sometimes the app isn’t the best to deal with it but I find using an elastic band to flick (it’s sounds weird I know) but it helps feel something and causes less harm. To deal with scars, you could consider using cream or oil as this can make them less visible. I know it’s really hard to not do it (cause I’m struggling to) but it really doesn’t make anything better. I really want you to be ok, and everyone here really cares about you so much ❤️. 

    I find it helps to distract myself by talking to someone, I like to use 7cups. I really don’t want you to feel alone so just know you can message me or the mix anytime xx 

    Sending hugs! 
  • Lucy307Lucy307 UKPosts: 1,127 Wise Owl
    Sending massive hugs your way Shaunie, I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this at the moment. I have a good friend with self harm scars and it hasn't stopped her from doing anything in her life and most people don't even notice, just in case that's any comfort. Do you feel comfortable talking to your counsellor about this in your next session, understanding that the date has been the trigger? 
    Treat yourself as you would treat a good friend
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