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Porn within a relationship...
TashM94
Posts: 4 Literally just got here
I feel a bit silly writing this but it’s been bothering me for a while now. My boyfriend watched porn/masturbated whilst I was asleep - he was in another room. Now the only reason I know this is because I checked his internet history. We had an argument and I got pararnoid about what he was doing, I didn’t check his FB or emails just went through his internet history.
He has always been honest that he watches porn however I never thought he would do it whilst I was in the house. We have been living together since March. It makes me feel inadequate, I know that’s ridiculous but it really bothers me. I can’t talk to him about it because he’ll think I’ve been snooping through his iPAD - which technically I did. Our sex life is good we go in waves of having sex everyday and then sometimes once to three times a week. I know he loves me although he’s not very affectionate like he doesn’t want to always cuddle or hold my hand, but he shows his love in other ways.
Also I don’t want this to sound disrespectful as everyone is beautiful in there own body but he watches porn of plus sized girls but I’m not plus sized I’m slim and I don’t understand it.
I am sorry if i have offended anyone it is not my intention, but I just wanted to get some advice on this.
He has always been honest that he watches porn however I never thought he would do it whilst I was in the house. We have been living together since March. It makes me feel inadequate, I know that’s ridiculous but it really bothers me. I can’t talk to him about it because he’ll think I’ve been snooping through his iPAD - which technically I did. Our sex life is good we go in waves of having sex everyday and then sometimes once to three times a week. I know he loves me although he’s not very affectionate like he doesn’t want to always cuddle or hold my hand, but he shows his love in other ways.
Also I don’t want this to sound disrespectful as everyone is beautiful in there own body but he watches porn of plus sized girls but I’m not plus sized I’m slim and I don’t understand it.
I am sorry if i have offended anyone it is not my intention, but I just wanted to get some advice on this.
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i think maybe best to speak to him about boundaries about this sort of thing. You don’t even have to tell him what you found on his internet history but could have an conversation about it. Are you comfortable with him watching porn anytime? As maybe need that discssion too.
Quite contraversal topic tho, few peopl even think it is cheating, I personally don’t think it’s cheating at all as no emtional connection to people behind screens. Though it hard when question why he’s watching porn, and start to think like are you not satisfying his sexual needs. But if that was the case he would be cheating with another girl not on porn. But I think for some people sex and mastubating are different. And he maybe also wants to mastubate aswell as have sex. Maybe could suggest mastubating or watching porn together?
And the people on porn videos are not exactly completly real and maybe he doesn’t see it as real either so I think how they look doesn’t matter too much. As he only wants to be with you, he’s just watching fantasy, not real & maybe imagines its you. And what people watch on porn isn’t nessarly what they want in real life. Though I understand how you would compare & question
Just remmeber his fantasies are not always real life. Like ;even some straight people will watch only lesbian/gay porn, but theyre not even lesbian let alone want to particapte in those sexual acts. And is different to what in actual life. Im sure he is happy with you and with exaclty who you are. So try not to read too much into it
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