Porn within a relationship...

Former Member

Siena

Hey

i think maybe best to speak to him about boundaries about this sort of thing. You don’t even have to tell him what you found on his internet history but could have an conversation about it. Are you comfortable with him watching porn anytime? As maybe need that discssion too. 

Quite contraversal topic tho,  few peopl even think it is cheating, I personally don’t think it’s cheating at all as no emtional connection to people behind screens. Though it hard when question why he’s watching porn, and start to think like are you not satisfying his sexual needs. But if that was the case he would be cheating with another girl not on porn. But I think for some people sex and mastubating are different. And he maybe also wants to mastubate aswell as have sex. Maybe could suggest mastubating or watching porn together?

And the people on porn videos are not exactly completly real and maybe he doesn’t see it as real either so I think how they look doesn’t matter too much. As he only wants to be with you, he’s just watching fantasy, not real & maybe imagines its you. And what people watch on porn isn’t nessarly what they want in real life. Though I understand how you would compare & question

Former Member

Thank you for the advice 

Siena

Youre welcome! 

Just remmeber his fantasies are not always real life. Like ;even some straight people will watch only lesbian/gay porn, but theyre not even lesbian let alone want to particapte in those sexual acts. And is different to what in actual life. Im sure he is happy with you and with exaclty who you are. So try not to read too much into it

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Former Member

Hi, this is a really old thread. I appreciate that you went your way to give out some thoughtful advice but I’m going to lock this as the user is most likely no longer around. 

If it’s a topic you want to talk about, feel free to make a new post related to you.