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Anxiety Ruins EVERYTHING!

NitwamNitwam Posts: 19 Settling in
in Health & Wellbeing
So ive been trying to go out with some mates to a few bars or a pub for a few drinks so im not always in the house but after a while when im out my anxiety just takes over and forces me to come home where i can feel more chill! I used to be able to go out no problem but now its gotten to the point where im too scared to go out incase of an anxiety attack! i tried to go out tonight too see a freinds who i havent seen in a while and ended up leaving soon after they arrived. i feel like im not really fun to be around due to this. I HATE IT! Im scared that im gonna lose freinds as i wonmt be out as much
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    JordanJordan Moderator Posts: 343 The Mix Regular
    edited August 2019
    I understand that you are worried about your anxiety attacks, and you feel that this impacts on your relationships and time spent with friends.

    Do you have any particular triggers for your anxiety? Spending time working out what triggers, or makes your anxiety worse, could possibly help you in figuring out coping strategies and ways to see your friends.  

    The NHS has some tips regarding social anxiety. It might be worth having a read through that and seeing if anything can help.
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    BubblesGoesBooBubblesGoesBoo Posts: 3,590 Community Veteran
    Hey 😊 sorry to hear your anxiety is getting in the way of seeing your friends .. have you considered talking to your friends or gp about this? If your friends know about the problem they may be able to help ground you when you feel an attack coming on. 
    The link Jordan has left sounds really helpful, so take a read of that aswell..
    Hope things start to improve soon!  <3
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    Butterfly23Butterfly23 Posts: 810 Part of The Mix Family
    Hey there 😊

    Anxiety can be so horrible sometimes so I understand how you are feeling with that, especially when it stops you from socialising and going out 💗

    I think that being scared of an anxiety attack is quite natural, as that in itself can be unpleasant to go through 💓

    Have you found any distractions or breathing techniques that work for you? 😊

    Butterfly x
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    AzzimanAzziman Moderator, Community Champion Posts: 1,851 Extreme Poster
    Hey,

    Sorry to hear that - I know that anxiety can really ruin a night out with friends, so can understand that completely! Is there anything that triggers your anxiety in particular? And when an anxiety attack hits, have you found anything that helps you to manage it?x

    Much love <3
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    NitwamNitwam Posts: 19 Settling in
    @Azziman i have no idea what triggers it. It just happened. i want to my gp to get asesed for any phsycial health issues and i came out fine. i just really dont know what makes me like this. ive never been an anxious person untill a few weeks ago 
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    SienaSiena Posts: 15,497 Skive's The Limit
    edited August 2019
    Anxiety can feel awful. I hear that and you're definelty not alone with those feelings. 

    What i think is really important that can help is letting your friends know how you're feeling / letting them know you fear of anxiety attack. Sometimes people knowing can ease the anxiety and fear more. But that also not something that's nessarly to do. 

    Have you tried self help stuff for your anxiety ?

    well done for going out when you still felt anxious - that take a lot. Sometimes it's good to go beyond our comfort zone and sometimes it's good to know when it's not helping - so you did well to leave that situation and taking care of yourself. I hear it can still feel frustating, sometimes it's the small steps and becoming more self aware and leaning that can really help. Which can take time. 

    Wishing you all the best!
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    NitwamNitwam Posts: 19 Settling in
    @ShaunieIm not really sure about how to help myself. i tried running and going on walks but they only help temporarily. i would usually have a warm shower which can help but other than that it doesnt really help me in the long run. It all started with a stupid fear of having a heart attack (which isnt likely as im 21 and ive has tests and im healthy). 
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