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What you wish people understood

ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 9,848 Supreme Poster
edited September 2018 in Anything Goes

Hey

So feel free to join me in writing down what you wish people understood. Can be about yourself or anything. Or even what you wish people knew about you. 


Feel like i have loads but anyway will start with saying;  i wish people understood i need a lot of personal space and just because i want to be by myself, doesnt mean am in bad mood or hate the persons company  

Also wish people understood that when i question somethig someone believes, i aint dismissing their belief or trying to be rude or start agrument, just trying to understand. 

if you have the strength to sustain anorexia you have the strength to overcome it
AidanArianalittlegemz

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  • EyepatchEyepatch Fast Newbie Posts: 520 Incredible Poster
    I agree with the personal space one,
    I wish people understood that even though I will say No all the time, it doesn't mean they should stop inviting me. I like being invited to things, even if my anxiety prevents me from going. 
    And I wish people would understand that just because I like snakes and spiders and prefer to be on my own and dress in black doesn't mean Im creepy or weird or, my least favourite, a freak :/

    On a positive note, one day you might find someone who does understand those things. Or is willing to try and understand them. If we all make a little bit of effort to understand each other I think the world would be a slightly better place. 
    "Sometimes we find ourselves stuck between choosing what is right, and what is easy." 
    ShaunieAidanlittlegemz
  • EyepatchEyepatch Fast Newbie Posts: 520 Incredible Poster
    @Shaunie I have the same problem as you, I really want to learn and understand something about someone else. So I ask questions and they always think i'm trying to start an argument or that I'm making fun of them some how. :/ It hopes to say something like, "I want to learn more about this, would you mind telling me.... then your question." I also add in "Im really curious about this" and "Im so happy for you, you seem very dedicated, but what if...." 

    Sounds weird but sometimes if I compliment someone first they are then more open to me asking questions they would otherwise feel offended by. For example, I really want to know what Vegans think of Lab-Grown meat, its identical to meat but grown in a lab and doesn't hurt any animals, but I don't want them to think I disagree with thier choices because if people don't want to eat animal products thats up to them. :/ 
    "Sometimes we find ourselves stuck between choosing what is right, and what is easy." 
    ShaunieAidan
  • Millie2787Millie2787 🐶 💜 Posts: 3,215 Boards Guru
    What I wish  other classmates understood  is that I’m not a naughty kid or just mess about - I don’t understand somthing and I’m to embarrassed to ask for help as it’s somthing simple which means I get frustrated with myself and therefore find other ways to distract myself which might include talking or walking round the classroom 

    another thing is that I can’t just “snap out of “ my anxiety , it so hard and difficult and I’m not just being silly or over reacting it’s so real for me and telling me to just get over it isn’t going to help I need people to Bee understanding not questioning when I have to leave the room for 5 minutes 
    and finally 
    being a young carer is not a easy ride to get out of homework , it’s far from it , I don’t use it as a excuse I genuinely try to find time to do it but that’s not always possible and even be time where yes I do I my mobile phone on ken skip the odd piece of homework - try going home and doing my care role for a SEND nephew and then tell me it’s a easy ride to get out of home 
    Sometimes all you need is one person to believe in you , for you to begin to believe in yourself.
    ShaunieAidanlittlegemz
  • BubblesGoesBooBubblesGoesBoo Sunny ScotlandPosts: 3,529 Community Veteran
    I wish people understood that I can't control my bpd. when im with someone and im happy that's great, but when my mood plummets they often think it's they're fault when it's not.


    I also wish people understood how exhausting living with a mental illness is.
    ' So I put a bullet where I shouda put a helmet, and I crash my car cause I wanna get carried away, that's why I'm standing on the overpass screaming at myself 'hey, I wanna get better''  
    ShaunieMillie2787Aidanlittlegemz
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 9,848 Supreme Poster
    edited September 2018
    Thank you all for sharing!!!

    i defintly agree @Eyepatch that trying to understand others would make the world that lil bit better which is why i made this as insightful too and feel like my quote/signature thing below goes quite well with it.  

    I do wish some people would understand how suicidal i get and how hard it gets that i feel out of control and that i do also try to get better but is pretty hard
    if you have the strength to sustain anorexia you have the strength to overcome it
    Aidan
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 9,848 Supreme Poster

    More of a general one...

    But i also wished people would understand that everyone has different levels of inteligance and i personally dont think anyone is ‘stupid’. And all have different strengths and parts not so good at. 


    &to some people i can be seen as really ‘stupid’ as my spelling can be really bad if i dont check it or i ask “stupid” questions and i just dont know some general common knowledge. But i would say i can be pretty wise and have quite a lot of knowledge in some other areas. - the same with everyone

    if you have the strength to sustain anorexia you have the strength to overcome it
    Millie2787Aidan
  • BubblesGoesBooBubblesGoesBoo Sunny ScotlandPosts: 3,529 Community Veteran
    I wish people understood self harm. then maybe whenever I get stitches I wouldn't have to lie and say I fell. I wouldn't be scared to say what really happened. ( I think people know by now but have never mentioned anything)
    ' So I put a bullet where I shouda put a helmet, and I crash my car cause I wanna get carried away, that's why I'm standing on the overpass screaming at myself 'hey, I wanna get better''  
    ShaunieAidan
  • AidanAidan Clever idiot Posts: 2,153 Boards Champion
    edited September 2018
    i wish people understood i need a lot of personal space and just because i want to be by myself, doesnt mean am in bad mood or hate the persons company  
    Can I second that?

    This is a very general one too, but...
    I wish people understood how strong they are and they're capable of so much, and tried harder to break their limits than to make their limits

    I wish I understood that too
    "Do, or do not, there is no try" <(•.•)>              
    Shaunie
  • LaineLaine Llama Mama Gone for GooPosts: 2,146 Boards Champion
    I have a few. 

    - I wish people understood I'm not bionic,  things get to me and some things are a real struggle. I just need 5 minutes alone to get my head together. 

    - I definitely wish people would understand how fatigued I get with my endometriosis. I can't fault college enough for being so kind I just wish some people had similar empathy because you know it's not simple laziness like its not because I can't be arsed to do something it's just hard really.

    I have a few more but can't think right now I'll post them later x

    🌈Positive thoughts🌈

    "What's gonna be left of the world if you're not in it?" ~ Bastille

    "Here's to the ones that we got
    Cheers to the wish you were here, but you're not" ~ Maroon 5
    ShaunieAidanMillie2787
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 9,848 Supreme Poster
    I wish people understood that comments like “you will eat nothing if it wasnt given to you”. Obviously not something my family do with the intention of making it worse. But Comments like that actually just make my eating disorder worse. Theyre just giving out expections because they know i have anorexia and say things like “oh she wouldnt eat all that anyway” - and then i defintly dont eat it all becUse that would make me feel out of control & fat - because its not expected as its seen as too much & then it would also bring attention of like - oh she ate it all with the patronising “ well done” And id just rather not have that sort of attention as embarrassing. 
    if you have the strength to sustain anorexia you have the strength to overcome it
    Laine
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 9,848 Supreme Poster
    Shaunie said:

    Also wish people understood that when i question somethig someone believes, i aint dismissing their belief or trying to be rude or start agrument, just trying to understand. 

    Why is this always so hard to understand 🙃
    if you have the strength to sustain anorexia you have the strength to overcome it
  • Millie2787Millie2787 🐶 💜 Posts: 3,215 Boards Guru
    Im not faking it , I can’t just get over it , it’s not stupid all my problems.
    im also not a special case I’m still a normal teenager just I have a few extra hurdles to overcome 
    Sometimes all you need is one person to believe in you , for you to begin to believe in yourself.
    Shaunie
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 9,848 Supreme Poster
    That it would be the most kindest thing if i was just dead
    if you have the strength to sustain anorexia you have the strength to overcome it
    Ariana
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 9,848 Supreme Poster
    That I’m not lazy. I am very heavily sad and it is hard to move sometimes being weighed down and having no energy 
    if you have the strength to sustain anorexia you have the strength to overcome it
    Ariana
  • ArianaAriana Posts: 193 Boards Initiate
    I wish people understood how much noise affects me and that it's because of my misophonia, not because I'm an intolerant person. They would struggle if certain noises affected them so much that it made them want to harm themselves too....
    Shaunie
  • SkiveSkive No discipline. No morality. No respect. New ForestPosts: 15,131 Skive's The Limit
    I wish people understood how to pronounce 'schedule'.

    Yesterday is history
    Tomorrow is a mystery
    But today is a gift
    That’s why it’s call the present
  • Millie2787Millie2787 🐶 💜 Posts: 3,215 Boards Guru
    That I really am trying my hardest and don’t mean to let everyone down all the time 
    Sometimes all you need is one person to believe in you , for you to begin to believe in yourself.
    Ariana
  • Disaster_AceDisaster_Ace Posts: 1 Literally just got here
    I wish people understood that sometimes things are overwhelming and I need a few minutes to calm down and refocus my self
    Shaunie
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