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danielle31danielle31 Posts: 1 Just got here
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i have recently spilt with my long term partner 

I feel like I have done the right thing but on the other hand I feel like I want him back 

I don’t know what to do I’m a mess can’t eat or sleep every time I see him I have a breakdown 
I have to see him as there is a child involed and also step children 

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    EyepatchEyepatch Posts: 666 Incredible Poster
    Welcome to the Mix :) 

    Feel free to make a post about what you are going through right now, as a person with divorced parents I recognise how much pressure and stress is on you right now. Try to treat yourself right, eat small amounts throughout the day if you have trouble with big meals and remember to treat yourself sometimes. 

    Anytime you want to share more details about what you are going though and how you feel just make a post and we will be here for you :) 
    "Sometimes we find ourselves stuck between choosing what is right, and what is easy." 
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    AzzimanAzziman Moderator, Community Champion Posts: 1,858 Extreme Poster
    Hi danielle,

    Sorry to hear what you're going through. Break ups can be a tough time, as you adjust to life without that person as your partner. It can be difficult to see that person again, remembering good memories together. Unfortunately, you can't hurry this along much - time is a key healer in this case. It will take some time to adjust to seeing him as an ex, friend, or your kid's father, but in time you'll become more used to itx

    Much love <3
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    SienaSiena Posts: 15,500 Skive's The Limit
    Hey welcome

    Not sure what i can add to whats already been said. Cause break ups are really hard.  But please try to look after yourself. 

    Hope you find this site useful
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
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    JustVJustV Community Manager Posts: 5,312 Part of The Furniture
    Welcome to the community, @danielle31! Adding to what the others have said, feel free to make a dedicated thread about what you're going through over in Sex & Relationships.

    See you around. :)
    All behaviour is a need trying to be met.
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    AuroraAurora Posts: 11,722 An Original Mixlorian
    danielle31 said:
    i have recently spilt with my long term partner 

    I feel like I have done the right thing but on the other hand I feel like I want him back 

    I don’t know what to do I’m a mess can’t eat or sleep every time I see him I have a breakdown 
    I have to see him as there is a child involed and also step children 

    Hey Danielle, 

    Welcome to TheMix message boards, it's great to have you as part of the community. It's difficult breaking up with someone, even more so when you have been together so long and also have children involved. So you can't even take the 'Completely cut them out route' because you need to stay in touch for the children. 

    I think, similar to breavment, breaking up has it stages you need to overcome, talking about how you feel is really important, whether it's over a drink with friends or a cuppa on the couch with family,do you have people you can turn to, to support you during this difficullt time? However, if you feel as though you can't talk to them, their are helplines you can apporach and ttalk to someone over the phone/text/email. For example Supportline who provide free confidential telephone counselling, you need to put yourself first though, and look after you. The worst thing you can do is keep it bottled up. You can also give TheMix chat a go, who can pin point you to other support places, if you did want to look into more 1-2-1 support, you've done amazing by coming on here and posting about it though, legit you've done the first step. 

    Would you like to talk to us a bit about the break up? How did it come about, etc? Were always here for you! Keep us posted! 

    Best wishes, 
    Aurora 



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    Ru12Ru12 Posts: 7 Confirmed not a robot
    Hey Danielle,

    Having recently gone through a breakup, I know how awful this time your going through is. I couldn't eat or sleep or get out of bed some days. A great website focused specifically on relationships that was really useful for me was Click. It's got lots of info from professionals and stories from people going through relationship issues and breakups. 

    Hope this helps and you will get through it,
    Rosie 


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