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How do you ask your partner if they've been checked recently?

GretaGreta London, UK Posts: 29 Boards Initiate

Hey everyone,


Asking your partner if they’ve been checked for STDs can be an uncomfortable topic to bring up, but it doesn’t have to be. Having these discussions is really important to ensuring both you and your partner’s safety, and there are ways to go about it that can minimize the awkwardness.


How do you ask your partner if they’ve been checked recently? Share your thoughts here.




  • LaineLaine Fruit loop Gone for gooDeactivated Posts: 2,762
    Ooh this is an interesting one, 

    I guess honestly from my trust issues a statement that they're clean would not be enough. 

    I'd probably like to see a letter or recent text from a clinic saying they're clean.
    Bare in mind if I was getting into a new relationship this is what I would likely do. 

    However in a loving relationship where you know you're both clean(like my current one) I wouldn't worry so much unless I had real signs that they were cheating then I would withhold sexual activity or use protection until they get tested or tell me the truth. 

    I really don't want to come across as harsh but you're healthy is important.

    In the event of a new relationship I would sit then down and have a serious talk about it and say something like "do you have any STIs?  I need to be aware of?" if they don't have any recent tests or proof maybe ask them if they would like it if you both got tested so you could both enjoy your new relationship fully. 

    If the event of cheating I would sit them down and ask if they used protection, I wouldn't be mad and we can work around this be it going our separate ways or sorting it out if we still want to be together long term,  but whether they used protection and have been tested is very important to know regardless x

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  • SiobhanSiobhan Posts: 14,447 Born on Earth, Raised by The Mix
    I think knowing roughly what you want to ask can help. Like maybe thinking about what wanna ask beforehand could help if the person think is really awkward. Is just for safety so shouldnt have to be awkward. And think about asking things like - ‘have you been tested recently’. In a time and situation that feels comfortbale for them and less awkward as possible. Probably not the best time to ask right before having sex tho. 
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