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secret crush
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i have a terrible crush on a younger woman. she is used to be my boss, she now works elsewhere but i still see her occasionaly. i would love to tell her:banghead: how i feel, but there are a couple of problems
she is married with 2 kids
i am married
i am afraid that if i let her know how i feel she will never speak to me again
what shall i do ?????
she is married with 2 kids
i am married
i am afraid that if i let her know how i feel she will never speak to me again
what shall i do ?????
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i dont think that will happen, i doubt if the woman of my dreams feels the same for me as i feel for her
That does sound really difficult, you are in a complicated situation.
My advice would be to focus on your relationship with your wife first.
It's normal to be attracted to people other than our long-term partner, but acting on it is a different matter, and can cause a lot of pain.
Maybe have a think about how you feel about your wife at the moment. Are you happy together? If not, are there things that you could do to change this? Maybe you could talk through some things with your wife - what would make you happier with her? what would brings some more spark to your relationship?
If you tell this woman at work how you feel, it will be hard to take it back. So it's worth making sure that you really know what you want and thinking about how it could affect your wife and your relationship together.
I hope things get easier
Danny
i do love my wife dearly, the woman in question is no longer my boss but i do see her on occassions. like i say its a fantasy to think anything will come of it. i bet she does not even think of me the same way. but she is so gorgeous, at least in my eyes.
i do know her husband as well and he has a drink problem she works days, he works nghts so i have no idea how happy she is. but she lives for her kids, she works so hard to provide for them. like i say nothing will ever come of it
:yes:
So let's pretend this is actually true, then you have absolutely no reason to tell any other woman that you love her.
To be fair Vailron, I wouldn't tell her how you feel. Just make sure that she knows your there for her. You don't want to make any drastic decisions that could leave you and others sad and alone. Focus on your wife and yourself. Get your relationship back on track and then re-observe the situation.
In the opening post he said, "i am afraid that if i let her know how i feel she will never speak to me again.", which means he is/was considering it. The reason he did not do it, was apparently because he was afraid she would not speak to him again, not because maybe he is married with kids.
Not only will you destroy your own marriage, you will destroy hers as well.
These sum it up perfectly.