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Obnoxious social media flirting.
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Ok, I've been seeing someone for quite a while now and we are pretty much official now. As in if asked we will say, but we haven't made a big announcement because we don't feel the need to. Anyway, he recently made friends with a girl that lives near him and ever since they became friends on facebook she's been openly flirting with him, rather brazenly for a few weeks now. e.g. Asking if he wants to go for 'walks', offering to model naked for him (he's an artist) and loads of other things. I've been letting it go and just rolling my eyes because it's quite embarrassing to read and hoping his ignoring her would give her the hint to stop. But she knows about us yet is carrying on, even commenting flirty things after me so that I see them. I've never met the girl and I know he has no interest in her as he has assured me. I've mentioned it to him because it's starting to get on my nerves a bit now as it comes across as really shameless and quite disrespectful. But he just ignores it and says unless she physically tries anything it isn't really a problem. But it's making me feel undermined as she just doesn't seem to care and it almost feels like she's trying to sabotage things. However if I say something I'll be the one that looks jealous and it might just give her ammunition. But he also feels awkward and doesn't want to step on anyones toes.
Am I being silly or should I try and sort this somehow?
Am I being silly or should I try and sort this somehow?
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I think to start with you definitely need to be totally honest with him if you haven't been already, and ask him why is he even friends with her in the first place? From what you've said, if he's just ignoring her, then is there really any need for them to be friends on facebook anyway?
Just explain to him that you aren't jealous, it just makes you feel a little uncomfortable- and rightly so! If you were in a bar together and she was openly flirting with him I'm sure you wouldn't just let it carry on. She knows you're together, and should accept that and move on! She's being childish and is probably just trying to wind you up. Don't rise to it, but speak to the guy you're with and ask why he's letting her carry it on and not say anything like "Sorry, I'm with lovely Ballerina and I'd appreciate it if you stopped posting flirty things to me!"
Are you guys legitimately dating?
Honestly, no matter what the answer is to any of those questions, I would tell him it upsets you, and if he doesn't care, then tell her to eff off. She's rude and disrespectful and she knows what she's doing.
Then, leave him, because he has no respect for you either apparently.
Anyhow, this is totally fair:
Good luck
Want me to flirt with you on facebook? See what he does! hahaha.
Seriously though hun, I think waiting till she says something else is the best plan and then speak to him again. He needs to respect that it's making you feel uneasy. If I was you I would have gone mental at them both by now so well done for keeping calm about it all!
Boyfriend was oblivious to it and didn't see a problem. After knocking me up though, she started to back off. Not that I'm suggesting that :P
Some girls are like that and I don't get it. It's so disrespectful and whatever happened to sisterhood? Don't let her wind you up. Agree with BA and Helen about telling your boyfriend again that he needs to tell her to back off a bit. It isn't indicative of how secure your relationship is or how secure you feel as a person. It's just annoying!!