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how do I make her mine again?
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So earlier this week, my girlfriend left me. She started packing her things and moved back to her old place. Lately our relationship has been strained because it wasnt nearly as fun as it used to be. Money got tight, i got stressed and put more focus into work than us. She knows i had a payraise coming up soon, so it would only be a temporary issue. But then, a very close uncle of hers died. that was the last bit of stress she could take. she said she needed to have fun again, so she left me. She said she will come back to me, that this will only last a couple weeks (hopefully), and i believe her. But i cant help but wonder "What if?" maybe this is it? And i really hope it isnt. im head over heals for this girl, and she knows that well. and i know she felt exactly the same about me. whether or not she can still understand those feelings because of everything else in the way, im not sure. i dont think she can at the moment. But im so lonely without her. it hurts so much not having her beside me when i wake up, not being able to see her at all. im on top of money now, and the old me is coming back. and i think she sees that. but she is so confused. I know time will heal her, and she probably will be mine again. and i know it sounds selfish, but i want her back now. i dont want to wait. i probably dont have a choice, but is there anything i can do?
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Unfortunately it sounded like that she ended up doing is giving you false hope. The situation you describe sounds a lot like something I went through a few years ago and it isnt nice at all. I do apologise if I come across as being blunt and mean. Yes I intended to be blunt, but not mean in any way.
Even if she did want you want deep down, would you want to get back with someone who has and is shagging another bloke so soon after she had moved out, especially if there is the possibility that it may have been going on before she moved out?
I think you have made an important decision in life. Whilst relationships are about give and take, and compromise etc, you're no longer in a relationship with her and need to think about yourself. It seems that you could have an exciting opportunity ahead of you, hope you make something of it because it sounds really great.
It doesn't really matter whether she shagged the guy or not really. It's good that you are already considering moving on in some form.
Moving on takes a lot of strength and courage so well done for feeling ready to do this :yes: Everyone does it in their own pace though, so feel free to take your time.
Sometimes coming out of a serious relationship can make being single daunting at times. However there is no reason why you can't be single and happy! Going out with friends, remembering the pros of being single, while having people there supporting you, can ease this process and actually make it enjoyable
Let us know how you get on *hug*
And try not to think about her too much (I know it's a stupid thing to say, but it does help). People grow apart and people always change, she wasn't the 'one' or the right girl for you, just think about the good memories, and leave it at that.
Spend time with friends and family, then just focus on yourself and what you need. Having a break from relationships to sort yourself out is always a good idea. Wish you best of luck dude.
But yes, sounds like she's not interested anymore sadly. Leave her to it and move on
You know i don't mean all, i just mean a large population of females, i just hate having to specify
But I say this more from experience, either i go for horrible girls or something.
But every girl i go out with, does what happened to the OP here.
You might have to learn to specify if you don't want to be seen as sexist and difficult. No girl I ever dated slept around when we were together.
To the OP, this must be really hard to know about, but at least it sends you a very clear message about the relationship and allows you to move on.