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That's crazy! Where did that idea come from?
I grew up with one parent smacking me about everyday and another parent showering me with love. From my experience I would never ever hit my children, but I would use things like the naughty step and I'd send them to their room if they were out of line, but I want to bring up children and allow them to enjoy their precious childhood rather than have mini adults that should be seen and not heard.
She wrote a book, The Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother (I think it's still in print) but it felt like she was counting her children's achievements vicariously as her own rather than letting them enjoy their childhood, and loving them for whoever they are.
I wonder what she would have done about a child with learning difficulties.
because emotional neglect runs a very high risk of creating a psychopath, sociopath, abandonment issues, personality disorders.
A free range kid on the other hand will probably be annoying as a child, but will still grow up and calm down and may not be a great workhorse, but a lot of social qualities and requirements are just learnt from being around people even without particularly structured discipline
Of my 8 neices and nephews, with three different parenting styles. They are all growing up with more love than dicipline. The eldest is top of her class. All her classes. The youngest is a happy big fat biffer baby, every single one is funny, articulate (where they can talk) well behaved and respectful.
So I guess u agree with me?
Actually, he's just said the exact opposite. So far, no-one agrees with you, and it seems if they had to choose, love or discipline, most people are coming down for love.
Only in the sense that discipline is *part* of a parent/child relationship. Judging by your OP, I'd hate to be one of your children though.
My father don't show emotions, he never even told us that he loved us. Ok so he maybe don't know how but it would be good if he will show some love emotions for us.
He's very strict but he didn't made me close to him, he drove me far away from him and at some point i hated him for it. I mean he doesn't show that he loves me so what the hell did he even care.
So when i will have kids i will show them discipline(without the hitting part) because i would never hit my kids and love because every kid needs both.
And i agree with Miss_Riot. Let children live their childhood and don't make them mini adults.
You are mixing up love and attention.
Love is protection; it is nothing to do with giving sweets / toys etc..
To spoil a child is to apply attention without reasoning.
Again, attention without reasoning , when the children were younger.
I wonder if you have children yourself?
Your advice / conclusion is rubbish.
A child requires attention with reasoning, from birth.
This reasoning must be male & female in its balance.
Follow this, without anger/violence , without fear, without
domination of one sex and a pure heart will rise out of childhood as
a result.( the spirit, plays its part also.)