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Very personal question BUT

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
I am going to ask it anyway xD

From what I have seen and heard lately I have started to worry about something.

Do all men (or women of course) think about porn while having sex with their other half?

Or am I being silly?

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    In what context are you asking? worried that you do it or worried that your partner does?

    honestly I mostly think about the sensations but favourite fantasies do crop up, as it were. and obviously the type of porn I watch meets those fantasies, but I don't think about banging a porn star instead if that's what you mean.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thank you for replying!

    I am not worried about myself doing it but possibly my partner.

    I tend to think about 'us' but am worried he is thinking about porn (like switching off from what we are doing and picturing it in his head) and not being in the moment. And no not pretending to be a porn star xD

    Are you saying that is what you do as well? Is this usual or if this is true, does it mean I am lacking for him?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'd suggest pretty much what Arctic said.

    It's not that the other partner isn't good enough in anyway, it's just one of the many thoughts. One of those thoughts may well be 'this is a million times better than watching that porn'.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I defer to Chris Rock - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IiSKxw2B2PU
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Scary Monster wrote: »
    I'd suggest pretty much what Arctic said.

    It's not that the other partner isn't good enough in anyway, it's just one of the many thoughts. One of those thoughts may well be 'this is a million times better than watching that porn'.
    ^ This. And from my point of you, it's never i'm thinking of porn because you can't get me off.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't think of porn as I don't really watch porn but I do think of other things than my partner. Like my sexy friend Emma / the lover's parents / mmm cake. Got in trouble with the ex once for stopping mid way through to eat cake.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Haha thank you all for your honest responses.

    I think what I am doing wrong is looking at sex as a black and white. And sex is never black and white!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I've never thought about porn *whilst* I am having sex but I have used it in foreplay.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I've never thought about porn. But then I struggle to think at all once I get turned on
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi patience,

    Everyone gets turned on for/by different reason - may it be during foreplay or intercourse. Some might occasionally think about porn and some might think of other things. It probably isn't a reflection on how you are performing.

    Has your partner giving you any reason to think he is thinking of porn or something else other than you? If this is something that really bothers you maybe you could have a conversation with him about it? Perhaps this isn't the case at all, but if it is, at least you will be able to talk about it honestly and openly.

    Have a look at our article on Porn and relationships that could help :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    whoa... interesting question that is. Answer from me (male) is nope, not at all :no:. Think about who I'm with... that's turn on enough.

    If you did have to think about porn while having sex it would hint that the other person wasn't turning you on to begin with.. So you needed 'more' to get that arousal.
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