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Very personal question BUT
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I am going to ask it anyway xD
From what I have seen and heard lately I have started to worry about something.
Do all men (or women of course) think about porn while having sex with their other half?
Or am I being silly?
From what I have seen and heard lately I have started to worry about something.
Do all men (or women of course) think about porn while having sex with their other half?
Or am I being silly?
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honestly I mostly think about the sensations but favourite fantasies do crop up, as it were. and obviously the type of porn I watch meets those fantasies, but I don't think about banging a porn star instead if that's what you mean.
I am not worried about myself doing it but possibly my partner.
I tend to think about 'us' but am worried he is thinking about porn (like switching off from what we are doing and picturing it in his head) and not being in the moment. And no not pretending to be a porn star xD
Are you saying that is what you do as well? Is this usual or if this is true, does it mean I am lacking for him?
It's not that the other partner isn't good enough in anyway, it's just one of the many thoughts. One of those thoughts may well be 'this is a million times better than watching that porn'.
I think what I am doing wrong is looking at sex as a black and white. And sex is never black and white!
Everyone gets turned on for/by different reason - may it be during foreplay or intercourse. Some might occasionally think about porn and some might think of other things. It probably isn't a reflection on how you are performing.
Has your partner giving you any reason to think he is thinking of porn or something else other than you? If this is something that really bothers you maybe you could have a conversation with him about it? Perhaps this isn't the case at all, but if it is, at least you will be able to talk about it honestly and openly.
Have a look at our article on Porn and relationships that could help
If you did have to think about porn while having sex it would hint that the other person wasn't turning you on to begin with.. So you needed 'more' to get that arousal.