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Dry patch in sex life
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I really need to rant and vent so here it goes
After breaking up with my ex and my girlfriend before that about a year and a half ago my sex life has been pretty much dry as a bone.
After going on a date with a girl yesterday it made me realise how much I enjoyed having sex with my ex and how much I got along with her. This girl I was with yesterday she was boring and was nothing that I'm looking for in a relationship I know that she would of had sex with me because she told me but I did not have any feelings for her so it would of just been sex and it would not of felt right.
Has anyone else had any dry patches in both sex and love life and do you have any advice for me it's getting me down.
After breaking up with my ex and my girlfriend before that about a year and a half ago my sex life has been pretty much dry as a bone.
After going on a date with a girl yesterday it made me realise how much I enjoyed having sex with my ex and how much I got along with her. This girl I was with yesterday she was boring and was nothing that I'm looking for in a relationship I know that she would of had sex with me because she told me but I did not have any feelings for her so it would of just been sex and it would not of felt right.
Has anyone else had any dry patches in both sex and love life and do you have any advice for me it's getting me down.
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I have been asked out on numerous occasions but none of them really appealed to me so i thought why go through a relationship plus possibly a breakup for someone you're not sure about. I havent met anyone that im that into so i dont have a boyfriend, simple as that. I also havent met anyone i fancy enough for a one night stand (:()
Some might say im picky or whatever and YES the no sex thing sucks, ALOT! but hey. If you're that worried about it oin a dating site
Although thinking about it, he turned out to be a nob so praps I'll shut up now :P
I don't have any words of wisdom, but I respect your will power to not just go off and have sex when it's really a relationship you're looking for, and I can totally empathise with your situation. I was doing online dating for many months and got no where. I've deleted my profiles and had a month or two now free of dating, although I'm starting to wonder about going back to it.
If you have an insanely high sex drive and need relief or you will go *kaboom* get down the gym and run it out/work out till it goes. It is amazing how much working out does to take the edge of sexual desire!
Not getting any works wonders as well, when you do find someone you want to get down and naughty with you will be a studly manbeast because you know what it is to want it so badly :d
That's how it worked for me at least!
What!
It's hard sometimes to admit to missing sex and even a relationship - and posting here can be very helpful as people can relate :yes:
Even though your post focuses on wanting sex, it seems like you also miss the intimacy side of it. You say you could have had sex with this girl, yet it seems you felt like there wasn't a strong enough connection.
It's completely normal to compare future relationships to exs, but like Smaug mentioned sometimes it can hold you back. Online dating could be something to think about as suggested - and similarly speed dating has had many good comments as it can be a fun night out with friends, all the while meeting someone and later choosing them if you connected!
Hope this helps, do keep venting of needed though
Realistically, I have insane body confidence issues. To the point where I think "no woman would want to sleep with me, I'm too fat". Being 6'4 and just being bigger than 95% of the population doesn't help either.
I should probably try online dating but I'm freaked about having to put a picture up or the person meeting me for the first time and being disappointed.
It's a shame because, as a person, I am an absolute delight