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Showering with friends
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i want to ask if is it ok to shower with a close female friend who is married? we are close and want just a shower ( non sexual)? will she accept ? and her husband will be ok with that ?
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Welcome to the boards :wave:
I moved your post into a new thread, as, it was mentioned, the other one was from back in 2002
There is a thin line between friendship and more so it's tricky. Considering she is married, this might be an issue for her husband. It all depends though on what kind of relationship you have and whether she feels comfortable with this?
If this is all new and there are some feelings involved perhaps this is something to discuss with her. Even if she feels happy with it, perhaps it is worth thinking of how this may look to her husband :chin:
Try and have a chat with her and see how she feels about this.
Do let us know how you get on!
Yes. he absolutely will. Next time you are at their place, just undress und ask her to follow you up to the bathroom. Politely ask her husband to watch some telly or go for a walk in the meantime.
i want to ask if is it ok if i shower with my married sister ? is it ok if i soap her hair , her breasts, her public hair and her butt and she soaps my back and my penis? i am a male i am 31 she is 30. does anyone have an experience like that ?
Yes. It's the private hair you need to watch out for.
Based on the level of detail you've provided here and the way you've written your post - it sounds like you're looking for a reaction from the community more than actual advice.:chin:
However If you are genuinely unsure about boundaries between yourself and other women when it comes to intimate contact then here are some questions for you to consider:
1. Why do you want to shower with your sister and or women who have husbands?
2. Is this pratice usual in your family or wider culture?
3. Is it really non-sexual? if yes, then why have you posted in the sex forum? The fact you've asked this question suggests you have a sense it's possibly not appropriate or OK.
That's a very personal and private question to ask and it's not appropriate to push people for an answer.
Whether it is ok or not depends on a lot of factors, and as Helen has rightly said, the fact that you're even asking suggests that you think that at least other people will consider it to be not-ok.
why it is not appropriate for wanting an answer , it is normal in this site or any other site to ask members about their opinion or to share experience if they want that
Pushing people to answer a very private question about personal experiences is both rude and inappropriate because people shouldn't feel pressured to share things like that, particularly on a forum like this one.
I can't speak for everyone, but to my knowledge, the practice you've described isn't really OK in the UK. If we're talking about experiences, then people tend to shower with their siblings when they are children only and even then, some people might prefer not to put boys with girls - but it really depends on the family and circumstances.
In terms of showering with an adult friend of the opposite sex, I think it's fair to say it's rare to happen.
I hope that helps.
Think about the questions I've posed to you - they are relevant.
thank you
believe me that the intimacy between brother and sister is a very good thing
i have red about sisters and brothers who shower together, sleep nude together sometimes , shaving each other public hair . believe me this is not sexual at all just enjoy the intimacy that showering together provided or sleeping together in the same bed provided.
I dont like the idea of it, it disgusts me.