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I'm a real person, not a machine, not unreasonable, not the complete cunt I feel like you're making me out to be. If you're close, that's close enough, if you do exceptionally well you'll get a big fat bonus, if you're hurt, you'll get it, if just turning up is an achievement, you'll get it. The fact is, if I didn't control myself I'd give more than I have to give.
Absobloodylutely.
Unless you are minted, you can't give to every cause there is, or every race that's run. You have to have a limit, and how you set your limit is up to you. My limit is to only give to my two charities, and no others. Fiend's limit is to only give to people who she thinks have deserved it. I don't get why that's a problem?
If you want to raise money for a cause that's close to you, that's great, and if people are good enough to sponsor you, that's brilliant, but they should never be under any obligation to give you anything, and if they do, I think they are being perfectly reasonable to add conditions.
Personally, I don't want to completely divorce the sponsored act from the donation. And I think it's rather nonsensical to do so. I won't donate to a charity like Invisible Children regardless of the sponsored act, but for all half-decent charities' sponsored events I take into account the nature of the event, the charity and the sponsored person. If you come to me for a sponsorship and after researching the charity I think it's super-fucking-bonza then, if I've the money, I'll sponsor you and I'll set-up a regular donation. If it's an OK charity then I'm gonna lean more on what my friend is doing to dictate the nature of my one-off donation.
Sponsorship of a friend, particularly if I use an incentive for them to try hard, is about motivating them as far as I'm concerned. If it's a difficult event for them then I'll usually give an amount regardless of how well they do as well as an extra incentive for a good performance.
We can all pussy-foot around it, but walking 13 miles because you couldn't be arsed to train is wet. I wouldn't give the top rate of donation I'd promised, particularly if the charity was distinctly average. I might if I thought it were an excellent charity, but you'd get a lot of stick for being a prat. It'd be the same if you told me you were gonna suck a hundred cocks in an hour for charity and only managed your boyfriend's.
Fiend- that's fair enough. Personally, I'm still uncomfortable with setting goals for friends and it's not really something I'd be arsed about chasing up. Each to their own.
I wasn't trying to upset you, but in the spirit of open, frank and honest discussion I'm also not going to avoid using an example you willing provided or couch my opinion in woolly sentiment. And 'wet' is isn't really 'hammering' anything home. The blowjobs example was silly, I'll admit. I'm just amusing myself most of the time and don't realise at the time how unhelpful half the shit I say is.