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My best friend and her boyfriend.
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Right, im a male and my bestfriend is a female, n her boyfriend is also a close mate, i feel meh about this whole sitauation so im going to keep it as short as possible.
recently they broke up because he doesnt do anything romantic with her hes just on xbox all the time shes over his and shes on a laptop mainly talking to me or something about how boring it is aswell as other problems she mentioned when she broke up with him. She saw him more of a friend now than a boyfriend
I thought it was the right thing to do, she wasn't happy and he didnt try, even though he is my friend she doesn't deserve that. So anyway a few days later she took him back saying theyre going to try fix the problems, which sounds fair enough at an outside glance but theyve been trying to fix the problems for a while and it didnt work or if it does now i dont think it will last
I want to tell her I think she's made a mistake but don't want her to think it's for any other reason or anything. I know it's sort of not my buisness but i feel its my duty sort of thing as a best friend to warn her or something, or should I just stfu and leave it to work/break or such?
recently they broke up because he doesnt do anything romantic with her hes just on xbox all the time shes over his and shes on a laptop mainly talking to me or something about how boring it is aswell as other problems she mentioned when she broke up with him. She saw him more of a friend now than a boyfriend
I thought it was the right thing to do, she wasn't happy and he didnt try, even though he is my friend she doesn't deserve that. So anyway a few days later she took him back saying theyre going to try fix the problems, which sounds fair enough at an outside glance but theyve been trying to fix the problems for a while and it didnt work or if it does now i dont think it will last
I want to tell her I think she's made a mistake but don't want her to think it's for any other reason or anything. I know it's sort of not my buisness but i feel its my duty sort of thing as a best friend to warn her or something, or should I just stfu and leave it to work/break or such?
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Never do this. All you can do is sit and watch.
You can still be a best friend and be there for her after it all went sideways, and that's usually more appreciated.
I should add that it all depends on the person tho. I do have friends that I can tell my concerns about their relationship and it wouldn't do much harm, because they would realize that I was right in the end and be not too proud to admit that. But I can safely say, after being in the position myself a couple times, it is generally not a good idea, to remind people of their mistakes when they deliberately blind themselves so they do not have to admit to their failure.
This is none of your concern, tho.
In fact, even then, don't meddle