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Dealbreakers
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The thread in Relationships about possibly being too picky got me thinking about a game me and my friends play called dealbreakers, where you have to think of the things you could find out about someone on a first date that would be enough to make you never call again, even if you had initially really fancied them.
It doesn't include obvious stuff that would be a dealbreaker for pretty much everybody, like poor personal hygiene or racism. It should be stuff that's specific and perhaps quite idiosyncratic to you; stuff that other people probably wouldn't give a shit about, but for you would be a dealbreaker.
Here are some of mine:
Not being able to name the Chancellor of the Exchequer.
Ordering his steak well done.
Precision facial hair.
Being tee-total.
Liking Top Gear and/or Jeremy Clarkson.
Wearing a hoody and dirty jeans on our first date (this one actually happened).
What are your dealbreakers?
Disclaimer: This game is just for the purposes of amusement, obviously. I am not suggesting you actually should dump anyone who does these things, unless of course you are particularly shallow.
It doesn't include obvious stuff that would be a dealbreaker for pretty much everybody, like poor personal hygiene or racism. It should be stuff that's specific and perhaps quite idiosyncratic to you; stuff that other people probably wouldn't give a shit about, but for you would be a dealbreaker.
Here are some of mine:
Not being able to name the Chancellor of the Exchequer.
Ordering his steak well done.
Precision facial hair.
Being tee-total.
Liking Top Gear and/or Jeremy Clarkson.
Wearing a hoody and dirty jeans on our first date (this one actually happened).
What are your dealbreakers?
Disclaimer: This game is just for the purposes of amusement, obviously. I am not suggesting you actually should dump anyone who does these things, unless of course you are particularly shallow.
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Not letting me pay half of the bill - I feel that they don't regard me as an equal if they don't, especially on the first date. It's different if they're your boyfriend and it's clear they want to do something a bit special.
Ordering smelly fish when he knows it will make me :yuck: - this has happened.
Getting up mid-meal to have a smoke. Again, this has happened, and I'm a smoker but even I can get through a whole meal without needing to light up! I imagined that if he couldn't get through the meal then what would the sex be like? And the image of him humping away with a fag in his mouth was so funny I was sniggering the rest of the meal.
I voted green, would you date me?
:yes:
Dirty teeth
Talking with food in the mouth
Chewing gum
Smoking
That would be a positive for me
Having a penis would be a positive for me!
We should swap dates
Do you go to much effort to find this out on the first date? :d
I'd have no chance if I included this one.
Pronouncing it too an issue?
Just the one?
same :L unless they are irish