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Possible New Relationship and Valentines Day
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I've been kinda seeing a girl for a month or so and we've gone on 3 dates. We seem to get on pretty well and the thought of what I was going to do on Valentines Day came into my head.
We're very casual. I want to take things slow because I've only been single for a month and she doesn't seem to be very experienced with relationships/dating. I want to do something for Valentines Day but I'm not sure if we've been seeing each other long enough?
I don't think we've been seeing each other long enough to get her a present but I thought I could get her a card and suggest she comes to my house (she hasn't been before) and cooking her dinner and watch a DVD. Now before you guys start thinking I'm trying to sleep with her, I'm not. I just don't see the point in spending almost £100 which i can't really afford on a meal which should only cost about half of that. I also think it would be good to spend time with her in a more relaxed setting rather than a public date kinda thing. I don't want her thinking that either though.
What do you guys think?
We're very casual. I want to take things slow because I've only been single for a month and she doesn't seem to be very experienced with relationships/dating. I want to do something for Valentines Day but I'm not sure if we've been seeing each other long enough?
I don't think we've been seeing each other long enough to get her a present but I thought I could get her a card and suggest she comes to my house (she hasn't been before) and cooking her dinner and watch a DVD. Now before you guys start thinking I'm trying to sleep with her, I'm not. I just don't see the point in spending almost £100 which i can't really afford on a meal which should only cost about half of that. I also think it would be good to spend time with her in a more relaxed setting rather than a public date kinda thing. I don't want her thinking that either though.
What do you guys think?
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So you don't think it's a little soon? We haven't even discussed where the relationship is going as it's been very casual whenever we've seen each other (to the stage where I had to check she was actually interested). I don't want her to think I'm going too fast because I think she's the type of person who would get spooked by that.
It's romantic without being too pressuring IMHO
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I think its a great idea! Will also give you ideas about what she feels about the relationship as well
Nice to hear you have a valentine
It's always good to go with your instinct. You seem to already know what she might like, after only a month, so this is a good sign.
If you are worried she will think you want anything other than cuddles, then simply be honest mentioning to her that you think it will be a more relaxed environment (instead of crowded loud restaurants) and that it will enable you to get to know each other better.
Hope you have a good time let us know how you get on!
I'm glad everyone seems to think it's a good idea so I think I'll go with it. I'll let you all know how it goes