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How often is it a problem deciding who goes "top" and who goes "bottom"?
Most gay guys i know say they are givers, not takers, this includes most of the effeminate guys as well.
Does this cause arguments etc? Or do you simply agree on a rotation system?
PS not my sort of thing either way in case you get the wrong idea :no:
genuinely interested though.
Most gay guys i know say they are givers, not takers, this includes most of the effeminate guys as well.
Does this cause arguments etc? Or do you simply agree on a rotation system?
PS not my sort of thing either way in case you get the wrong idea :no:
genuinely interested though.
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But am I right that most gay men want to fuck, as opposed to getting fucked, by a considerable majority?
In my experience, no. If you go into the chat rooms on gaydar/recon the vast majority wanna get fucked.
Top - will only top
Top versatile - prefers to top but will bottom
Versatile - happy either way
Bottom versatile - prefers bottom but will top
Bottom - will only bottom
Most people probably fall into the middle three and are, therefore, willing to bottom.
Of course, the remaining option is that some guys don't partake in any form of anal sex at all.
Actually it's usually
Bottom - fuck me
Bottom versatile - fuck me
Versatile - fuck me
Top versatile - fuck me
Top - ill fuck you if you fuck me
This is why I should have gone gay. If only it was a choice thing.., [/slut]
As an additional thought, I wonder if they are being truthful? Some guys seem to think that being 'bottom' is unmanly or something and may not admit to it.
Awwwwwwww! Bless you. You're such a slut. *hug*
that was my first thought
Because I seek to understand things?
:chin: might explain why I don't need to take my socks of to count how many times I've fucked someone
That cant be true, otherwise id be getting shagged rotten everyday
:thumb:
This seems quite bizarre, I would have imagined if anything, it would be the other way around...perhaps it's more a question of fit, as opposed to desire?
Pure curiosity.
I don't, that would be to confuse cause and effect. If I was informed by an authority on the subject that there is a significant difference in average dick size between those who are "top" and those who are "buttom" I'd merely presume that, on average, the one on top is physically larger in general and more masculine, hence on average, bigger cock. But as I say, this wouldn't be the cause, only - if anything - an effect of the cause.
I'm curious why it would be the opposite though, unless it was more about the problem of fit rather than desire or preference.